Realizing how this effected myself and family, I decided I needed to change my way of thinking. I needed to eradicate this stress and unhappiness from my life. This is hard to do when you've spent your whole life living this way.
These are my guidelines: If things aren't going as planned, expected or hoped for I need to go with whatever works for me at the time. Which means be flexible and adapt, be able to change course, don't worry about the norm --what everyone else is doing. Do what feels right for me -- and my family. Not everything needs a detailed plan of action. Just a simple plan and the ability to adapt. Change won't always be for the worse, sometimes it might surprise you in a good way.
So just like Clint Eastwood said in the movie Heartbreak Ridge "Adapt, Improvise and Overcome".
Jeep -- It's not Just an Adventure! It's a Good Life.