These past couple of days have been like stepping back in time. I am back out on the east coast visiting my kids. Hanging with them in my old house is very surreal, which has flooded my mind with a lot of old memories and feelings. Each time I come back this happens. However, this time it's different. This time, I am not overcome with emotions where I cry with shaking shoulders. This time something spiritual happened. All that emotion was taken away. Finally I can let it all go, so I can move on with my life. It has been a long process of healing. Not only that it has been even a longer process trying to live my best life. A journey of discovering myself again.
When I became a mom 22 years ago I didn't realize I still needed to hang on to me. I still needed to have my own life. It is okay to hold onto that part of you, actually a necessary thing to do. I know a lot of stay-at-homes who neglect this part of their lives. The focus is all on being the best mom they can. In that process they lose a little of themselves each year. For me getting it back was almost a nine year process with a lot of tears and anger.
Living your best life brings you happiness. Happiness isn't stuff or a full schedule or tons of friends. The media and corporate America have brainwashed us into believing tangible things will make us happy. Finding that true happiness is a process, a slow methodical process that worked for me. A burden was lifted each time and it felt good.
Top 5 Steps to Live Your Best Life
Declutter your Stuff:
Be purposeful about this. Go drawer by drawer, closet by closet. Then do it all again in a couple of months. Emotionally holding on to stuff bogs down your life. Stop using those excuses, "one day I will use it" or "I spent a lot of money on that I can't". That is living in the past or living in the future. Live in the here and now.
Declutter Your Time:
Reduce your commitments like volunteering or events you attend. Re-evaluate your job. I started slowly with my volunteer commitments. I taught myself to say no. My job loss was not on purpose but being let go was a blessing in disguise.
Declutter Your Electronic Life:
Reduce your time on social media, reduce the amount of social media you have, reduce your information overload, and most importantly disconnect from the world once in a while. Information overload can be debilitating.
Information Overload Article
Declutter Your Relationships:
Cut out the negative people in your life. This is a hard one to do, but very necessary. Negative people are very draining emotionally.
Declutter Your Past Emotions:
This was the hardest one for me to do. I was able to finally let go a couple of days ago. When I moved to Colorado in 2020 I knew I was on the road to my best life, but something was holding me back. My son Michael saw it. I was blinded by my own emotions. I was grieving a loss, so many losses, my home, my old life, my old friends, my marriage. There was a lot of unnecessary guilt I placed on myself and a lot of anger from wrongs done to me. I needed to forgive myself and let go of those wrongs before I could truly move on.
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