Our world has changed dramatically since I was a little kid. With the explosion of the internet then social media, a whole new set of problems plague us. One of those problems is the the way we see each others lives.
Most people who post on social media only post the good stuff happening in their lives. Very few share those down times. I try to balance both to show there are other people out their experiencing difficulties in their life and not everything is good.
Sharing about your life's low points doesn't make you a victim. I don't want to be considered a victim because of a hurt I may feel. Am I devastated right now? Of course, my life has been turned upside down. I am no longer with the person I love and shared an amazing journey with. I am no longer living my dream.
I am now trying to get back up on my feet. I am looking at the role I played, what I did wrong, and what I did right. How I felt, and what I need to work on as a person.
Being a victim is a mode of thinking in which you feel unhappy in life and powerless to change it. Life doesn't always go your way, and people get hurt, but that doesn't mean you are a victim. A victim blames others for their problems. I am taking ownership, I am looking at myself to figure out where I went wrong, and I can become a better person. I am not perfect, no one is, and it does take two people. I will do my part and work on what I find I need to work on.
I don't share for pity or sympathy. I share to help others, so they know they are not alone on their rollercoaster ride of life. I share so they feel they can share, then we can all work on our problems together. Just like when I created the parents support group many years ago. We all had our issues, but we had each other to lean on for support.