Tuesday, May 17, 2022

Topless Tips

 

To be Topless -- that is what inspired me to buy my Jeep spontaneously one day in the Spring of 2013. It wasn’t to take the Jeep off road but to be topless. I have discovered though, off roading and being topless are my form of Jeep Therapy. I was at a point in my life when I realized time goes by too quickly to wait for the right moment to do the things you want to do. So my life motto is to "Live Life".  Live means to "be alive" and when I'm in my Jeep -- with the top down -- feeling the warm sun on my face -- and the wind blowing through my hair that's what I feel -- ALIVE! Topless in my Jeep is also therapeutic. 


With Spring arriving that means I can start driving with my top down, but there are always precautions you must take. When you have a Jeep Wrangler you can't just put your top down, hop in, and hit the road. Well... if you get prepared, you can do just that. But it takes some thought to "Be Prepared".

Topless Jeep Driving DO's & DON'T's 



1. Make sure your top folds back into the perfect Jeep"W". This keeps the soft top lasting longer.










2. Don't park under trees that are shedding their blooms or under trees with lots of birds hanging out in them. 






3. When you are going 65 mph down the interstate, and you have long hair, tie it back, or put on a hat. There is a high potential you will go blind momentarily, and crash.



4. Leave No Trace is definitely a principal you should use for the inside of your Jeep.  You don't want that "litter fine" when trash goes sailing out the top of your Wrangler.

5. Anything you want to keep in your Jeep make sure it's tied down.

6. When you bring your drink in the Jeep make sure it has a lid. Those Jeep rides become very bumpy.

7. When you have kids you will want to have a blanket for each of them.  Even when it's warm outside the back seats tend to get a little chilly for the little ones.


8. Spray your floor mats with bug spray.  Some say spiders like to spin their web inside your Jeep.  Fingers Crossed -- I haven't had this issue yet.





9. When it's sunny out, keep sunscreen handy or get a sunshade. 





10. Don't leave valuables laying around. Leave 'em home or lock 'em up in the glove box or console.

Thursday, May 12, 2022

Soft Top Care

Jeeps are meant to get dirty…. but not stay dirty. 

The three areas of the Jeep Soft Top you should concentrate on are the fabric, the windows, and the Zippers.

Keeping your soft top clean, and making frequent inspections, will help prolong the life of it.

There are several trusted brands

BestopRaggtop and Mopar

I have used the Bestop products on my Jeep and found they are simple and easy to use. –They have a Cleaner, Protectant, Polisher.

When I can’t these products I just use water. Chemicals on the soft top are not good.



YouTube Videos

Jeep Momma's Soft Top Cleaning Tips

Jeep Momma's Zipper Care 

More tips to help increase the life of my soft top - which is one of the main reasons I love my Jeep so much. The ability to go topless!

Number 1... Reduce the exposure to the elements by parking in the garage.. if you can. The sun causes the fabric to fade, threads to fail and our vinyl windows to yellow, crack and fade. Spending quality time and hard work on our soft tops can make it last plenty of years. 





Number 2... Never use bleach, detergents, ammonia or alcohol-based products, stick with the products specifically made for the soft top. Clean it monthly, and don't forget the inside.

Make sure you keep those zippers clean too. Just some regular mild soap and water will keep dirt from building up on your Jeep's zippers as well. If you let dirt and grime build up on your soft top, windows and zippers, it will ultimately lessen the life of your soft top. 

Number 3... You hear a lot of people recommending the Pledge spray polish, the regular not lemon, on Jeep Windows. I suggest you avoid this tip. I hear over time it will cause your windows to turn yellow.

Number 4… You hear this question all the time on social media. Can I take my Jeep through the car wash? First if you have a lifted Jeep with bigger tires some car washes will refuse you. Those automatic car washes work but are not a good idea because the high-pressure sprays and rotating brushes will force water into the vehicle. Taking your Jeep soft top through an automatic car wash will scratch the Jeep’s windows and might even tear the seams. Plus, some of the chemicals can cause irreversible damage to the vinyl itself.

Number 5… Zipper care it very important as well. Sometimes
those zippers can be tough to zip on and off. I have used a zipper lube in the past, but some say that lubrication attracts dirt and grime. Some Jeep owners carry a small bar of soap in the glove box and
  rub the bar of soap directly onto the zipper itself, it will lubricate the zipper without attracting as much dirt & grime as the spray lubricants do.

 

A must for your zippers…. is zipper pulls on your Jeep’s windows. This allows for easy grasping and pulling. There are several places online you can purchase paracord zipper pulls or it you are crafty you can make your own. The cool thing about this is you can make them in a color to match your accessory color. My purple paracord zipper pulls allow me to work the zipper much easier now.

Pampering your Jeep is so important. If you are going to name your Jeep you better take care of her. 

Tuesday, May 3, 2022

Topless Therapy - 100 Songs

To be #Topless -- that is what inspired me to buy my Jeep spontaneously one day in the Spring of 2013. I was at a point in my life when I realized time goes by too quickly to wait for the right moment to do the things you want to do. So my new motto is to "Live Life".
 Live means to "be alive" and when I'm in my Jeep -- with the top down -- feeling the warm sun on my face -- and the wind blowing through my hair that's what I feel -- ALIVE!

Topless in my Jeep is also therapeutic. I am in need of some #JeepTherapy right now.  

Music can is a great therapy along with a Topless Jeep. We all have those songs that provoke excitement, and invigorate us. Add that music while driving a Jeep with the top down -- those favorite songs blaring from the speakers at full blast and you are at the pinnacle of feeling alive.


 1. You Shook Me All Night Long - AC/DC
 2. Hold On Loosely - 38 Special
 3. Livin' After Midnight - Judas Priest
 4. Tom Sawyer - Rush
 5. More Than a Feeling - Boston
 6. Sign of the Gypsy Queen - April Wine
 7. Flirtin' with Disaster - Molly Hatchett
 8. Hotel California - Eagles
 9. Have a Drink On Me - AC/DC
10. Bad Boys Running Wild - Scorpions
11. Thunderstruck - AC/DC
12. Hair of the Dog - Nazareth
13. Lonely is the Night - Billy Squier
14. No One Like You - Scorpions
15. Highway To Hell - AC/DC
16. Foreplay - Boston
17. Rock and Roll Fantasy - Bad Company
18. Dust in the Wind - Kansas
19. Round & Round - Ratt
20. Stone in Love - Journey
21. Slow Ride - Foghat
22. Sweet Home Alabama - Lynyrd Skynyrd
23. Burnin for You - Blue Oyster Cult
24. Closer to the Heart - Rush
25. Working Man - Rush
26. Smoke on the Water - Deep Purple
27. Boys are Back in Town - Thin Lizzy
28. Rainbow in the Dark - Dio
29. Here I Go Again - Whitesnake
30. Sabbath Bloody Sabbath  - Black Sabbath
31. Come on Feel the Noize - Quiet Riot
32. We're Not Going To Take It- Twisted Sister
33. Fat Bottom Girls - Queen
34. Caught Up In You - .38 Special
35. Photograph - Def Leppard
36. When I'm Gone - 3 Door Down
37. Enter Sandman - Metallica
38. Bawitdaba - Kid Rock
39. Cowboy - Kid Rock
40. All Summer Long - Kid Rock
41. 3am - Matchbox Twenty
42. Rock and Roll Band - Boston
43. I Want You To Want Me - Cheap Trick
44. Wanted Dead or Alive - Bon Jovi
45. Saturday Night - Bay City Rollers
46. Blaze of Glory - Bon Jovi
47. Bad Moon Rising - CCR
48. Pour Some Sugar On Me - Def Leppard
49. Rock of Ages - Def Leppard
50. Cinnamon Girl - Neil Young
51. Southern Cross -  CSN&Y
52. Jack and Diane - John Mellancamp
53. Come Get Your Love - Redbone
54. Smokin' - Boston
55. I Love Rock N Roll - Joan Jett & The Blackhearts
56. Ride Like the Wind - Christopher Cross
57. Houses of the Holy -  Led Zeppelin
58. Rock and Roll - Led Zeppelin
59. Do You Feel Like We do - Peter Frampton
60. Nothin' But a Good Time - Poison
61. Show Me The Way - Peter Frampton
62. Pinball Wizard - The Who
63. Free Bird - Lynyrd Skynyrd
64. Hooked on a Feeling - Blue Suede
65. Desperado - The Eagles
66. Country Roads - John Denver
67. Mary Jane's Last Dance - Tom Petty
68. Baby, I Need Your Loving - Four Tops
69. Hells Bells - ACDC
70. Peaceful Easy Feeling - The Eagles
71. Highway Star - Deep Purple
72. Ice Cold Summer  - Trailor Chior
73. Ain't Even Done with the Night - John Mellencamp
74. Limelight - Rush
75. Go your own way - Fleetwood Mac
76. Push It - Salt n Pepa
77. Animal - Def Leppard
78. Rock You Like a Hurricane - Scorpions
79. Sweet Emotion - Aerosmith
80. Crash into Me - Dave Mathews Band
81. Squeeze Box - The Who
82. Just What I Needed - The Cars
83. Let's Go - The Cars
84. Jukebox Hero - Foreigner
85. Runnin' Down A Dream - Tom Petty
86. For Those About To Rock - AC/DC
87. Ramble On - Led Zeppelin 
88. Don't Stop Believing - Journey
89. Rock and Roll All Night - KISS
90. Feel Like Makin' Love - Bad Company
91. Magic Man - Heart
92. Free Fallin' - Tom Petty
93. Black Water - Doobie Brothers 
94. Listen to the Music - Doobie Brothers
95. Maggie May - Rod Stewart
96. The Thunder Rolls - Garth Brooks
97. Blinded By the Light - Manfred Man's Earth Band
98. Mississippi Queen -Mountain
99. Paradise City - Guns and Roses
100. Afternoon Delight - Starland Vocal Band

Tuesday, April 26, 2022

Oil Leak UPDATE

Oil Leak Blog Post 

I had my housing assembly replaced. The mechanic that worked on my Jeep
says 
he sees this type of leak a lot because people over torque the plastic part and it cracks, and cold temperatures make it worse. Plus, it looks like this issue is a design flaw….

The Chrysler Pentastar V6 oil filter housing and cooler assembly for 3.2L and 3.6L engines can become warped, brittle and crack over time with constant exposure to engine bay heat. I read this serious flaw in the design of the Pentastar oil filter housing and cooler assembly and often results in severe oil and coolant leaks and can have catastrophic consequences. 
Over the years there has been speculation that Chrysler cut a fewcorners with the Pentastar V6 and the original equipment parts. The plastic oil filter housing and cooler assembly is one example. The number of complaints for this part is staggering.  There have been so many complaints – with the OE replacements even, that Chrysler has discontinued the manufacturing of the Pentastar oil filter housing and cooler assembly. Even more surprising is that Chrysler has known about this problem for a long time and has never issued a recall.

I called around and three major auto parts stores shared, the factory part is no longer available and claimed it hasn't been available for a year and a half. So I tried to go with the Dorman Aluminum upgrade. That part is not available right now.  If you suspect this problem in your Jeep you better start hunting for the part now. The Dorman aluminum aftermarket part is very, very hard to get. If one does come in it doesn't stay in the store for more than a day. 

I found the aftermarket part. $259.99. You need to buy the manifold set too, $51.99 easy to get. It’s still plastic but not the OEM part Standard Autos Part which will also work. 

I am hoping my oil leak woes are solved because I still have some work to do on my Jeep fixing unfinished work from the previous garage I was using. Installing aftermarket lower control arm brackets and the one shock mount. Plus, finishing the work on the axle truss. 



Wednesday, April 20, 2022

Loving After Emotional Abuse

Traveling this bumpy road of healing, I find myself faced with so many obstacles. As I do when I am traversing the trails in my Jeep, I am extremely cautious because I don't want to get broken again. Wandering down this bumpy road of life broken and trying to put my pieces back together is extremely hard. I have found myself distrustful of everyone I meet. I question everything someone tells me. There are days I feel like everyone is against me and I analyze everything endlessly in my mind. 

When you have been abused, like severe psychological abuse, your perceptions
and view of the world are altered. I lived in a very dark place for several months where my reality was purposely played with by the one person I believed loved me and I trusted. I am afraid I will never get back to that place of loving another person again. It makes me sad because I have so much love to give but I am terrified of being crushed and tossed aside again. The walls around me are stone and high. 


I gave my whole heart to another person only to have it smashed with a hammer so opening up to another person like that again will take a lot of time. I hope I can open up. Right now I don't know if I will ever be able to do that and both those thoughts terrify me. Never being able to give and receive love vs. giving my heart and soul only to have it stomped on and thrown to the vultures has me frozen with fear. Opening myself up to another person friend or a loving life partner will take a lot of work and extreme patience. 

Along this journey I have met so many others on this same healing journey all at different points. I have learned a lot from these same survivors and I wanted to pass on some tips shared with me. It is all about finding yourself after losing yourself to the emotional manipulations. 

  • Fully heal before getting into another relationship.
  • Focus on your recovery. 
  • When you decide to get into another relationship take things slowly
  • If you have people in your life who you trust, who you have known for a long time. Talk to them, they will love you for you, and remind you who you truly are not the person you became from the abuse. 
  • Realize that there are only two primary emotions in life, LOVE and FEAR. You need to get rid of the fear and replace that fear with love. That could be love for things you love to do, love for people who are close to you, love for your work, love of beautiful environments
  • Don’t beat yourself up, you might be a changed person, but you will also be a wiser person
  • Write down a list of ten things that you love about YOU. 

I am trying to come to terms with the risks of meeting another sociopath. My fear is getting involved in another horrible situation but in the same breath missing out on making new friends because I am so fearful. Right now it's baby steps. 

Wednesday, April 6, 2022

My Emotional Journey

 My Book is Now for Sale on Amazon!

“Let it Go”
“Silently Walk Away”
"Get Over It”
“Put it Behind You and Move On”
I have heard those words over & over the past several months. It has taken me a long time and a lot of research to process everything I have discovered about what I went through. What I experienced is deeper than your normal end of the relationship process because it wasn’t a normal, loving, caring relationship. I decided to be me and do what I do best, Powerfully Take a Stand.

So, I wrote a book about my experience. It is raw and emotional. I expose so much of myself personally, but I needed to share with the world in hopes one day my words might comfort or help someone else through their healing process or even prevent someone from going through the pain in the first place.



I encourage you to read my story as you may better understand the seriousness of emotional abuse. I recently came across a Netflix Documentary that is on a larger scale but it similar to my story. I was lucky and got out in time before I went down the rabbit hole too far.




During my process of journaling and researching, my writing turned into a story which turned into my first book. I learned so much I never knew before I started to research. There are millions and millions of people living this pain EVERY – SINGLE – DAY! My hope is to raise awareness, bring compassion and understanding of letting the victim voice their pain and frustration over and over if needed. Healing from this can take months even years and the first step is education and awareness.



I would love your support in the purchase of my book on Amazon. Please leave a review and share with your friends. We need to spread awareness!


Tuesday, March 29, 2022

My Jeep Oil Leak Woes

I started to see oil spots on the driveway and in the garage. So I got under my Jeep and looked. UGH!!! I was quite sad. I wasn't exactly sure what happened. I shared the problem and pictures with a Jeep friend of mine, he said it looks like the oil filter housing adapter needs to be replaced. I took it to a mechanic here in Minnesota and he was right. 



The mechanic that is helping me says he sees this type of leak a lot because people over torque the plastic part and it cracks, plus cold temperatures make it worse.

I called around and three major auto parts stores shared, the factory part is no longer available and claimed it hasn't been available for a year and a half. So it looks like an upgrade is the only way to go. 

If you suspect this problem in your Jeep you better start hunting for the part now.
The Dorman aluminum aftermarket part is very, very hard to get. If one does come in it doesn't stay in the store for more than a day. 


Praying this is the only issue as that aftermarket part is expensive. I found the aftermarket part. $259.99. You need to buy the manifold set too, $51.99 easy to get.

I was informed by a friend who works for a garage that Jeep shows the OEM part is in stock. which I don't believe it's truly in stock, but I never checked.
The OEM part is listed at $424 WOW!!! $160 more for the crappy plastic part. Why even bother to see.
if it's in stock. 


The part came in as I was writing this post. The mechanic can install next week. WOOT WOOT.
It wasn't a Dorman though. There was a little misunderstanding when I bought this part. The Dorman can't be found in stock anywhere. This is not the OEM part but the Standard Autos Part which will also work. 

Just hoping it solves the problem. Next up is fixing unfinished work from the previous garage I was using. Installing aftermarket lower control arm brackets and the one shock mount. Plus, finishing the work on the axle truss. 

Thursday, March 24, 2022

Making Amends

Making amends is typically part of the recovery healing process of addiction.
However, I discovered I need to make amends for my healing process from a toxic relationship. 

Amends are a verbal acknowledgement of your wrongdoing or in my case, acceptance of seeing the transgressions and not speaking up. Making amends is a step towards forgiving myself for allowing people to get hurt or to be deceived.

As I find myself coming out of the fog from the emotional manipulation I faced, I realize I was becoming a person who was ignoring my core morals and values to please my partner. Even though I was not directly involved in the misdeeds, I still saw them and said nothing at the time. It began to eat away at the person I was. I didn't like the person I was becoming.

Making amends will help provide resolution, restore trust, decrease stress, and can be a start to self-forgiveness. I have so much shame I am trying to overcome I hope making amends helps to take that away. 

Feeling shame from the harm we believe we may have caused others can be toxic. Toxic shame  is one of the most complex emotional states which is hard to explain. For me it is a combination of guilt, embarrassment, humiliation and disgrace. Toxic shame is a very destructive emotional sickness of self a person can have. It is a true soul sickness. 

Making amends with people in your life can take a long time to accomplish, sometimes years. For me it's a start to my healing process. Even though I never was on the front line of the deception and transgressions, I feel responsible because many times I didn't see it and I should have. 


Tuesday, March 22, 2022

Jeep Slang Words

It took me over forty years to realize owning a vehicle takes on a whole new meaning when you become a Jeep owner. Just owning a Jeep is an experience on a whole other level than just a “regular” vehicle.  


Being apart of the Jeep Community is amazing. A community full of Jeep enthusiasts that feel the love for their Jeep like you feel about your Jeep. 



A Jeep is not just a vehicle it’s a way of life. You begin to immerse yourself into all things Jeep. To be fully apart of the community you need to learn the lingo. 

Jeep Momma's Top 10 Jeep Slang Words

Droop - Downward articulation, or how far the tires can reach below the vehicle.

Stuff - Upward compression, or how far the tires can be pushed upwards into the wheel housing.

Naked – A term used to describe a Jeep with the top & doors off.

Oh shit handles – Grab handles on the roll bars to hang onto while crawling thru the rocks.

Pumpkin – The differential which is the device on the axle that splits the engine torque two different ways, allowing each output to spin at a different speed.

Wrenching – When a group of Jeepers get together to work on a single Jeep or multiple Jeeps.

Wheeling – driving your 4x4 vehicle off-road with like-minded friends.

Flex – the vehicle’s ability to flex its suspension where drooping on one side and  stuffing on the other while maintaining the ability to keep all four wheels on the ground when going over off road obstacles by means of axle articulation

Line - A pathway designated by the driver giving them a sightline to the best possible route to overcome an obstacle or to travel on a specific pathway. Choosing the correct line is often essential to being a successful four-wheeler.

Stealership  A derogatory term given to car dealerships where DIY drivers avoid purchasing parts due to them being notoriously overpriced. 


Wednesday, March 16, 2022

Mindfulness & Meditation

What is Mindfulness?

The awareness of where you are and what you are doing, and to be fully present. Mindfulness is about not getting overly reactive or overwhelmed with what is going on around you. We all have this quality, however it is something we need to learn how to access.

That is my issue right now. I don't know how to access it fully. Mindfulness and meditation are supposed to help in the healing process from emotional abuse. I thought I would give it a try. 

Doing this has been really hard for me. I have tried meditation before but I just can't seem to shut my mind down. Sometimes I get so engrossed in obsessive thoughts about something that just happened or worrying about the future which creates anxiety.

For a lot of people mindfulness is not always easy. With our experiences, thoughts, feelings, emotional and physical discomforts that naturally come into our minds we tend to pull our attention away. 

“Mindfulness is awareness that arises
through paying attention, on purpose,
in the present moment, and non-judgmentally"

Everyday I try working on my mindfulness. A common way to develop it is awareness of breathing. There are many other ways too. I will try them all until I am able to develop a steady attention that will firmly plant me in the present moment. 



Tuesday, March 15, 2022

RIP Maggie May

Maggie May was a 1980 Jeep Wagoneer left to live out eternity in a junkyard until she was rescued back in 2019 to be restored to join me on my Adam's Extreme Adventure across America.


Unfortunately, she never made that trip and didn't get to see any part of our beautiful country. She turned out to be an epic build with so much potential to spend her days overlanding across the Americas. 


Instead she was picked apart like vultures eating a dead animal in the desert only leaving the carcass. Once again left to rot, abandoned in a field to die a lonely death. 

I helped acquire many parts for Maggie May, new state of the
art headlights, top of the line front and rear driveshafts, and fancy new off road tires. Not to mention the financial help getting the engine up and running. I did hear the engine run once but never saw her driving on any road or trail. 


I guess boredom set in and she was slowly picked apart piece by piece until just her body sat on cement blocks among the weeds. 





Her engine went to California and still sits quietly in a garage. Will it ever run? We will never know. 



The tires, one ton axles, driveshafts, performance shocks and headlights were installed on a 1971 J4000 Jeep Truck. Now in the hands of a new owner who will hopefully appreciate that Vintage Jeep. 


As for the interior build and body of Maggie May,  she sat alone in the corner of a farmers field for over a year. She was used up and tossed aside but she still had so much life left in her. I hated knowing she was sitting out in that field waiting for life to fill up the beautiful vintage Jeep. 

The last I checked was about six months ago and she still sat alone in that field. I was curious, so I recently checked with the former land lord. All I know is she was hauled off when there was some construction happening on the land. We will never truly know the fate of this beauty we can only guess. 

This poor iconic American Jeep was discarded like a piece of garbage on the side of the road never to see those dirt roads like she was promised, her dreams crushed. It breaks my heart because there was so much potential for such an amazing journey with this Jeep. I know she was just a bunch of metal but when you become a Jeep owner you come to love them like they are real living breathing entities. 

Maggie May May You Rest in Peace!   

Topless Tips

  To be Topless -- that is what inspired me to buy my Jeep spontaneously one day in the Spring of 2013. It wasn’t to take the Jeep off road ...