Friday, September 9, 2022

Top 5 Must for Healing

I have done a lot of research the past several months. When
you leave an emotionally abusive relationship, education is the number one way to start the healing process. Understanding what happened to myself, and why it happened were crucial in my healing process.   

Once you begin to understand what happened and why, you can start down the road to healing YOU! These are My Top 5 Musts for healing from an emotional abuse.

EXERCISE - A must from the start, even if it's just a walk down
the street. If you have to, start small and build each day. Daily e
xercise has many psychological and emotional benefits. 

  • Meeting your exercise goals or challenges, even small ones, can boost your self-confidence.
  • While out walking just exchanging a friendly smile or greeting as you walk around your neighborhood can help your mood.
  • Exercise releases those feel-good endorphins, a natural brain chemical that can enhance your sense of well-being.
  • Exercise is a way you can get away from the cycle of negative thoughts that feed depression and anxiety

SUNSunlight boosts your serotonin levels. Serotonin helps with boosting your mood. It can help calm you and keep you focused. Without enough sun exposure, your serotonin levels can dip. Low levels of serotonin can be linked to a higher risk of depression. 

FRESH AIR - Spending 20 minutes outside each day, preferably in a green space, can reduce blood pressure, heart rate, stress and prevent development of psychiatric disorders.

FORGIVE MYSELF


It took several months to work through all my negative emotions to finally forgive myself. Once I understood my state of mind at the time and gave myself some compassion for the ME I was at the time, it was easier to forgive myself. Now I look for the positives from the situation I was in. I have become a stronger person with boundaries. I can see the red flags and I know my worth.

There were some really great positives for me. I met some amazing people who I now call good friends. I had some fantastic life changing adventures. I was able to live in an scenic place. It was a high price to pay financially and emotionally, but I will come out on top. I don't think I will ever forgive him but that's God's job not mine!

GRATITUDE -  I practice this every day. What am I thankful for today. 
I now look at the bad things that happen in my life with gratitude. If I never was in my situation in Colorado where I had to leave I would never have this amazing opportunity to be with my sisters. My life would have gone down a different path.

Now for the first time since I was in high school, I live in the same town (or county) as my sisters. I am savoring every moment with them knowing tomorrow may take us down another path where we once again go our own way. It was a tough price to pay to be here but I am grateful.

Tuesday, August 16, 2022

Airelax Sleep Pad Review - 5 Stars

AIRELAX asked me to try out their sleeping pad. So, I took it on an urban camping adventure with me. I absolutely loved it! Perfect for any camping trip.

Check out my YouTube Video Review - Click Here


Link to product

Why I love the Airelax Sleeping Pad

Quick Inflate & Deflate: No need for an extra pump and no mouth blowing! AIRELAX inflatable camping mat comes with with a large capacity pump sack which you use to pump up the sleeping pad. Perfect for primitive camping or backpacking. T

The valve features a convenient double-layer design for easy deflation in seconds. As well as no leakage of air at night.  

Watch the "How To" inflate sleeping pad - Click Here

Better Sleep Support: When you lie down on the sleeping
pad, the 3.54" thick height keeps you away from wet ground and hard stones, far away from the cold for a good night's sleep, plus
it's almost silent when you roll over.

Durable Fabric and Good Sealing: The camping pads are made of tear-resistant nylon fabric, peach suede, and eco-friendly TPU. I love how it's a soft fabric not your typical air matress fabric. 

Built-in Pillows Design: The camping sleeping pads for 2 person feature built-in pillows to eliminate the trouble with carrying extra pillows, and air bubble wavy-design for better body and neck support whether you're lying flat or on your side, providing a comfortable sleep for your journey.


Tuesday, August 9, 2022

Breaking News - New Jeep Product

Photo Courtesy of Stellantis / Jeep
News out of Stellantis Headquarters today. A new performance product released for the JL and JT. A wiper blade kit, a new high performance wiper blade from the Jeep Performance Parts team at Mopar. 

These are the coolest wiper blades ever. I can't believe I didn't think of this. Totally makes sense. Twelve laser cut holes along the wiper blade that allows the wiper fluid to be released directly on the glass of the windshield. No wasted fluid flying up over your Jeep. 


Read More...  

Clean Sweep: Jeep® Performance Parts Introduces New, High-performance Windshield Wiper Blades

Maybe the Jeep Performance Parts team will design one for the JK / JKU. 


Sunday, August 7, 2022

The Birth of Jeep

The "Go Anywhere, Do Anything" Jeep 4x4 vehicle became the hero for thousands of Allied soliders around the world in the 1940's. Later becoming the civillian hero for many decades to come as Jeep in now an American Icon. 

During the war the US infantry needed a low-profile, powerful vehicle with four-wheel drive. Three commercial companies put in their bids, American Bantam, Willis Overland Motors, and Ford Motor Company. 

     The Birth of an Icon (Read More) 

Each company was tasked to build a vehicle for testing. In July of 1941 the contract was awarded to Willis using combined parts of all three prototypes. The Willy's MB was born.

THE THREE DESIGNS


WIlly's Quad - Designed by Willis Overland Motors in Toledo, Ohio. This little beast of a machine was powered by it's "Go Devil" engine that produced 61 mph, along with 105 foot pounds of torque. 





Blitz Buggy - Designed by American Bantam out of Butler, 
Pennsylvania. Working with Spicer, one of Bantam's focuses was axles and transfer case. 



Pigmy - Designed by Ford Motor Company. The two Ford pilot vehicles are now sitting in museums. It is said neither the original Bantam Pilot nor the Willys Quad survived. 

Tuesday, August 2, 2022

Trauma Bond - How to Break Free

The term “trauma bond describes how the “misuse of fear, excitement, and sexual feelings,” can be used to trap or entangle another person. Basically trauma bonds happen  when we go through periods of intense love and excitement with a person followed by periods of abuse, neglect, and mistreatment. 

Mental Health Professional equate a Trauma Bond to a Heroin Addiction. 

This cycle of being devalued and then rewarded over and over, creates a strong chemical and hormonal bond between a victim and abuser. This is why victims of abuse often describe feeling more deeply bonded to their abuser than they do to people who actually consistently treat them well.

Most people looking from the outside don't understand why you don't just leave. Well, you know you need to and want to leave someone, but you simply cannot bring yourself to cut them out of your life.

How to Break Free

Educate Yourself.

Get a Therapist to sort it out in your mind.

Go No Contact is imperative for healing.


Focus on healthy bonds, but take care of yourself.

Make yourself the number one priority.

Challenge yourself to do new things.


Take a break from dating.


Monday, August 1, 2022

Setting Boundaries and Apologies

Several years ago I began a journey to find ME. There were
many changes I made to my life and steps I took during this process. It was a process of minimalism... not just getting rid of tangible items but evaluating my time and commitments. I was looking at what was important to me and my goals. I hadn't realized then but I was setting my boundaries. 

Now as I heal, I am learning the importance of setting boundaries for a healthy life and healthy relationships. There are so many more boundaries I need to examine and figure out what works for me. 

Check out my Minimalism Jeep Momma Posts

I have started my boundaries checklist. There are many different categories to explore and work on. One of the first that is important for me in my healing process is Apologies & Forgiveness.  

Forgiveness was really hard for me. That is forgiving myself, not others. This is one of the first steps in healing. For the most part I have forgiven myself, but there are days I fall down on this one. 

APOLOGIES

During those many years ago when I was decluttering my life I realized I wasn't always living my life for me. I spent a lot of time worrying about other people and their feelings. Since then I have learned it is not my job to make sure everyone is happy. We are all responsible for our own happiness. 

I needed to stop taking responsibility for other people's feelings. Too many times I worried about hurting other's feelings and instead neglected mine. I can't control how someone reacts to my opinions or how I live my life. I will not apologize for that. 

Here is a prime example. Years ago I went to one of those wine paint nights with a friend. We both painted our own paintings. We happened to pick a night where the subject of the painting meant something special to her. 

We had a great time that night. I will always cherish those memories. However, I didn't care too much for my painting. For me it was about the time spent with my friend, not the painting. 

Several months later I was in my decluttter mode and had a yard sale. I decided to sell my painting, thinking a painter might be able to reuse the canvas. Instead a young girl loved my painting and asked her mom if she could buy it to put in her bedroom. I told the girl she could have it for free. 

I was so touched by the moment I shared it on Facebook. The friend who shared that paint night with me was so upset. She couldn't believe I would just toss out our friendship like that. That moment was a crossroads for our friendship. 

I honestly don't remember if I apologized for getting rid of the painting but I did share I wasn't throwing away our friendship. She couldn't let it go and now we are no longer friends. (there were other issues after this as well).

For a long time losing that friendship bothered me. It was a real struggle to come to terms with. Some days I felt like a bad person. Now I am on a path to self love. I realize the self loathing I held onto was a waste of time because it is not my responsibility how someone reacts to me living my best life. 

This article is a great article on apologies.  Click Here


Giving Myself Grace - Learning to Let Go

I look back at my last relationship with embarrassment. Some
days there is a lot of anger with myself because I didn't see the red flags or maybe I did and ignored them. Other people saw the red flags and warned me. I didn't listen. 



I think how could I have been so blind to miss those red flags. I wonder what was wrong with me. I hear this a lot from others who are in or have been in manipulative relationships. 

I need to understand I am in the present and viewing my past with an awareness and clarity I didn't have before. I need to stop beating myself up over the past and give myself some grace. I was being manipulated, gaslit, and lied to by the person I loved. I need to learn from the past but not harbor anger with myself. 



Giving yourself grace means giving yourself permission to
forgive your mistakes, lapses in judgment and hurtful behavior because no one is perfect. It's a mindset to be kind to myself instead of critical. At the same time reflecting and learning from these mistakes help you with personal growth. 



Monday, June 20, 2022

Jeep Trail Rated 4x4 Badge

The Jeep brand is like no other out there. Jeep’s core values are freedom, adventure, authenticity, and passion. As Jeep owners throughout history, we have learned "Go Anywhere, Do Anything" is more than just a slogan - for Jeepers it’s our way of life. I have embraced that way of life and it has changed me. I have experienced amazing adventures, met some of the greatest people who are now my lifelong friends, and found my passion in all things Jeep. Those core values are a reflection of myself. It’s a connection like no other. 

The Jeep Brand has embodied those four core values into the DNA of every Jeep they make. Not just the Wranglers and their predecessors but the Compass, Cherokee, Grand Cherokee, the Renegade and so many more. The one thing that ties all those Jeeps together is the Trail Rated 4x4 Badge and we need to appreciate ALL of those Jeeps because they all are so capable and unique in their own ways. Sometimes people joke about the badge, and you need to realize it’s not just a badge they stick on the Jeep. It is earned. 

Every Jeep vehicle with that Trail Rated 4x4 badge has
succeeded against a series of grueling tests in five categories: 
TractionWater Fording, Maneuverability, Articulation and Ground Clearance. Jeep says trail rated is a methodology a guarantee and a recognized standard for proven off-road capability that Jeep 4×4 vehicles must meet. Trail Rated is an industry-leading methodology initially established by the Nevada Automotive Test Center (NATC) and Jeep Engineering to objectively measure off-road performance for all Jeep vehicles. First the testing begins at Jeeps US Headquarters where the Jeeps endure the bitter angry cold weather in Northern Michigan. then it’s out to some of the most challenging terrain on earth. The Rubicon Trail located high in the Sierra Nevada Mountains, the Rubicon Trail is 22 miles of incredible rocky, grueling beautiful landscape. It’s a natural off-road adventure park populated by massive rocks and unforgiving boulders. Weather and constant use mean the trail is always changing to provide new challenges for vehicles hoping to be Trail Rated®.

Jeep says, "Pushing our vehicles as far as they can go is part of the Jeep Brand DNA.” They strive for groundbreaking capability so we as Jeep owners can pursue our exhilarating adventures. Jeep says their vehicles will continue to be tested to battle everything you may encounter.

There are consistent and reliable measurements of off-road performance that include a combination of natural and controlled field tests on demanding terrain, as well as computer-simulated evaluation tests.

If a Jeep vehicle is affixed with the trail rated badge you know it has passed the test in five performance categories. 

Traction that tells you that vehicle is capable to conquer some of the toughest terrain in mud, sand and on rocks. 

Water Fording features additional electrical and body sealing along with a high air intake to help you navigate streams and flooded underpasses. 

Maneuverability means that Jeep is capable to navigate narrow gaps, dodge emergency situations and avoid cosmetic damage thanks to precision steering and optimized wheelbases, which allow for expert navigation. 

Articulation means those trail rated suspensions enhance off-road performance maximizing flexibility, axle articulation and wheel travel. 

Ground Clearance is more than just the area under your Jeep when you drive over obstacles it also includes approach, break over and departure angles to ensure the vehicle can clear logs, rocks and uneven ground.

So remember the next time you see that trail rate 4x4 badge on your Jeep or other Jeeps know it’s not just a badge it’s a lot more! Jeep says they don’t make Jeep. We do. Revel in all things Jeep… that unstoppable spirit that makes our Jeep community and our Jeep experiences what it means to live the Jeep life.


Tuesday, May 17, 2022

Topless Tips

 

To be Topless -- that is what inspired me to buy my Jeep spontaneously one day in the Spring of 2013. It wasn’t to take the Jeep off road but to be topless. I have discovered though, off roading and being topless are my form of Jeep Therapy. I was at a point in my life when I realized time goes by too quickly to wait for the right moment to do the things you want to do. So my life motto is to "Live Life".  Live means to "be alive" and when I'm in my Jeep -- with the top down -- feeling the warm sun on my face -- and the wind blowing through my hair that's what I feel -- ALIVE! Topless in my Jeep is also therapeutic. 


With Spring arriving that means I can start driving with my top down, but there are always precautions you must take. When you have a Jeep Wrangler you can't just put your top down, hop in, and hit the road. Well... if you get prepared, you can do just that. But it takes some thought to "Be Prepared".

Topless Jeep Driving DO's & DON'T's 



1. Make sure your top folds back into the perfect Jeep"W". This keeps the soft top lasting longer.










2. Don't park under trees that are shedding their blooms or under trees with lots of birds hanging out in them. 






3. When you are going 65 mph down the interstate, and you have long hair, tie it back, or put on a hat. There is a high potential you will go blind momentarily, and crash.



4. Leave No Trace is definitely a principal you should use for the inside of your Jeep.  You don't want that "litter fine" when trash goes sailing out the top of your Wrangler.

5. Anything you want to keep in your Jeep make sure it's tied down.

6. When you bring your drink in the Jeep make sure it has a lid. Those Jeep rides become very bumpy.

7. When you have kids you will want to have a blanket for each of them.  Even when it's warm outside the back seats tend to get a little chilly for the little ones.


8. Spray your floor mats with bug spray.  Some say spiders like to spin their web inside your Jeep.  Fingers Crossed -- I haven't had this issue yet.





9. When it's sunny out, keep sunscreen handy or get a sunshade. 





10. Don't leave valuables laying around. Leave 'em home or lock 'em up in the glove box or console.

Thursday, May 12, 2022

Soft Top Care

Jeeps are meant to get dirty…. but not stay dirty. 

The three areas of the Jeep Soft Top you should concentrate on are the fabric, the windows, and the Zippers.

Keeping your soft top clean, and making frequent inspections, will help prolong the life of it.

There are several trusted brands

BestopRaggtop and Mopar

I have used the Bestop products on my Jeep and found they are simple and easy to use. –They have a Cleaner, Protectant, Polisher.

When I can’t these products I just use water. Chemicals on the soft top are not good.



YouTube Videos

Jeep Momma's Soft Top Cleaning Tips

Jeep Momma's Zipper Care 

More tips to help increase the life of my soft top - which is one of the main reasons I love my Jeep so much. The ability to go topless!

Number 1... Reduce the exposure to the elements by parking in the garage.. if you can. The sun causes the fabric to fade, threads to fail and our vinyl windows to yellow, crack and fade. Spending quality time and hard work on our soft tops can make it last plenty of years. 





Number 2... Never use bleach, detergents, ammonia or alcohol-based products, stick with the products specifically made for the soft top. Clean it monthly, and don't forget the inside.

Make sure you keep those zippers clean too. Just some regular mild soap and water will keep dirt from building up on your Jeep's zippers as well. If you let dirt and grime build up on your soft top, windows and zippers, it will ultimately lessen the life of your soft top. 

Number 3... You hear a lot of people recommending the Pledge spray polish, the regular not lemon, on Jeep Windows. I suggest you avoid this tip. I hear over time it will cause your windows to turn yellow.

Number 4… You hear this question all the time on social media. Can I take my Jeep through the car wash? First if you have a lifted Jeep with bigger tires some car washes will refuse you. Those automatic car washes work but are not a good idea because the high-pressure sprays and rotating brushes will force water into the vehicle. Taking your Jeep soft top through an automatic car wash will scratch the Jeep’s windows and might even tear the seams. Plus, some of the chemicals can cause irreversible damage to the vinyl itself.

Number 5… Zipper care it very important as well. Sometimes
those zippers can be tough to zip on and off. I have used a zipper lube in the past, but some say that lubrication attracts dirt and grime. Some Jeep owners carry a small bar of soap in the glove box and
  rub the bar of soap directly onto the zipper itself, it will lubricate the zipper without attracting as much dirt & grime as the spray lubricants do.

 

A must for your zippers…. is zipper pulls on your Jeep’s windows. This allows for easy grasping and pulling. There are several places online you can purchase paracord zipper pulls or it you are crafty you can make your own. The cool thing about this is you can make them in a color to match your accessory color. My purple paracord zipper pulls allow me to work the zipper much easier now.

Pampering your Jeep is so important. If you are going to name your Jeep you better take care of her. 

Tuesday, May 3, 2022

Topless Therapy - 100 Songs

To be #Topless -- that is what inspired me to buy my Jeep spontaneously one day in the Spring of 2013. I was at a point in my life when I realized time goes by too quickly to wait for the right moment to do the things you want to do. So my new motto is to "Live Life".
 Live means to "be alive" and when I'm in my Jeep -- with the top down -- feeling the warm sun on my face -- and the wind blowing through my hair that's what I feel -- ALIVE!

Topless in my Jeep is also therapeutic. I am in need of some #JeepTherapy right now.  

Music can is a great therapy along with a Topless Jeep. We all have those songs that provoke excitement, and invigorate us. Add that music while driving a Jeep with the top down -- those favorite songs blaring from the speakers at full blast and you are at the pinnacle of feeling alive.


 1. You Shook Me All Night Long - AC/DC
 2. Hold On Loosely - 38 Special
 3. Livin' After Midnight - Judas Priest
 4. Tom Sawyer - Rush
 5. More Than a Feeling - Boston
 6. Sign of the Gypsy Queen - April Wine
 7. Flirtin' with Disaster - Molly Hatchett
 8. Hotel California - Eagles
 9. Have a Drink On Me - AC/DC
10. Bad Boys Running Wild - Scorpions
11. Thunderstruck - AC/DC
12. Hair of the Dog - Nazareth
13. Lonely is the Night - Billy Squier
14. No One Like You - Scorpions
15. Highway To Hell - AC/DC
16. Foreplay - Boston
17. Rock and Roll Fantasy - Bad Company
18. Dust in the Wind - Kansas
19. Round & Round - Ratt
20. Stone in Love - Journey
21. Slow Ride - Foghat
22. Sweet Home Alabama - Lynyrd Skynyrd
23. Burnin for You - Blue Oyster Cult
24. Closer to the Heart - Rush
25. Working Man - Rush
26. Smoke on the Water - Deep Purple
27. Boys are Back in Town - Thin Lizzy
28. Rainbow in the Dark - Dio
29. Here I Go Again - Whitesnake
30. Sabbath Bloody Sabbath  - Black Sabbath
31. Come on Feel the Noize - Quiet Riot
32. We're Not Going To Take It- Twisted Sister
33. Fat Bottom Girls - Queen
34. Caught Up In You - .38 Special
35. Photograph - Def Leppard
36. When I'm Gone - 3 Door Down
37. Enter Sandman - Metallica
38. Bawitdaba - Kid Rock
39. Cowboy - Kid Rock
40. All Summer Long - Kid Rock
41. 3am - Matchbox Twenty
42. Rock and Roll Band - Boston
43. I Want You To Want Me - Cheap Trick
44. Wanted Dead or Alive - Bon Jovi
45. Saturday Night - Bay City Rollers
46. Blaze of Glory - Bon Jovi
47. Bad Moon Rising - CCR
48. Pour Some Sugar On Me - Def Leppard
49. Rock of Ages - Def Leppard
50. Cinnamon Girl - Neil Young
51. Southern Cross -  CSN&Y
52. Jack and Diane - John Mellancamp
53. Come Get Your Love - Redbone
54. Smokin' - Boston
55. I Love Rock N Roll - Joan Jett & The Blackhearts
56. Ride Like the Wind - Christopher Cross
57. Houses of the Holy -  Led Zeppelin
58. Rock and Roll - Led Zeppelin
59. Do You Feel Like We do - Peter Frampton
60. Nothin' But a Good Time - Poison
61. Show Me The Way - Peter Frampton
62. Pinball Wizard - The Who
63. Free Bird - Lynyrd Skynyrd
64. Hooked on a Feeling - Blue Suede
65. Desperado - The Eagles
66. Country Roads - John Denver
67. Mary Jane's Last Dance - Tom Petty
68. Baby, I Need Your Loving - Four Tops
69. Hells Bells - ACDC
70. Peaceful Easy Feeling - The Eagles
71. Highway Star - Deep Purple
72. Ice Cold Summer  - Trailor Chior
73. Ain't Even Done with the Night - John Mellencamp
74. Limelight - Rush
75. Go your own way - Fleetwood Mac
76. Push It - Salt n Pepa
77. Animal - Def Leppard
78. Rock You Like a Hurricane - Scorpions
79. Sweet Emotion - Aerosmith
80. Crash into Me - Dave Mathews Band
81. Squeeze Box - The Who
82. Just What I Needed - The Cars
83. Let's Go - The Cars
84. Jukebox Hero - Foreigner
85. Runnin' Down A Dream - Tom Petty
86. For Those About To Rock - AC/DC
87. Ramble On - Led Zeppelin 
88. Don't Stop Believing - Journey
89. Rock and Roll All Night - KISS
90. Feel Like Makin' Love - Bad Company
91. Magic Man - Heart
92. Free Fallin' - Tom Petty
93. Black Water - Doobie Brothers 
94. Listen to the Music - Doobie Brothers
95. Maggie May - Rod Stewart
96. The Thunder Rolls - Garth Brooks
97. Blinded By the Light - Manfred Man's Earth Band
98. Mississippi Queen -Mountain
99. Paradise City - Guns and Roses
100. Afternoon Delight - Starland Vocal Band

Tuesday, April 26, 2022

Oil Leak UPDATE

Oil Leak Blog Post 

I had my housing assembly replaced. The mechanic that worked on my Jeep
says 
he sees this type of leak a lot because people over torque the plastic part and it cracks, and cold temperatures make it worse. Plus, it looks like this issue is a design flaw….

The Chrysler Pentastar V6 oil filter housing and cooler assembly for 3.2L and 3.6L engines can become warped, brittle and crack over time with constant exposure to engine bay heat. I read this serious flaw in the design of the Pentastar oil filter housing and cooler assembly and often results in severe oil and coolant leaks and can have catastrophic consequences. 
Over the years there has been speculation that Chrysler cut a fewcorners with the Pentastar V6 and the original equipment parts. The plastic oil filter housing and cooler assembly is one example. The number of complaints for this part is staggering.  There have been so many complaints – with the OE replacements even, that Chrysler has discontinued the manufacturing of the Pentastar oil filter housing and cooler assembly. Even more surprising is that Chrysler has known about this problem for a long time and has never issued a recall.

I called around and three major auto parts stores shared, the factory part is no longer available and claimed it hasn't been available for a year and a half. So I tried to go with the Dorman Aluminum upgrade. That part is not available right now.  If you suspect this problem in your Jeep you better start hunting for the part now. The Dorman aluminum aftermarket part is very, very hard to get. If one does come in it doesn't stay in the store for more than a day. 

I found the aftermarket part. $259.99. You need to buy the manifold set too, $51.99 easy to get. It’s still plastic but not the OEM part Standard Autos Part which will also work. 

I am hoping my oil leak woes are solved because I still have some work to do on my Jeep fixing unfinished work from the previous garage I was using. Installing aftermarket lower control arm brackets and the one shock mount. Plus, finishing the work on the axle truss. 



Top 5 Must for Healing

I have done a lot of research the past several months. When you leave an emotionally abusive relationship, education is the number one way ...