Trauma Bond - How to Break Free

The term “trauma bond describes how the “misuse of fear, excitement, and sexual feelings,” can be used to trap or entangle another person. Basically trauma bonds happen  when we go through periods of intense love and excitement with a person followed by periods of abuse, neglect, and mistreatment. 

Mental Health Professional equate a Trauma Bond to a Heroin Addiction. 

This cycle of being devalued and then rewarded over and over, creates a strong chemical and hormonal bond between a victim and abuser. This is why victims of abuse often describe feeling more deeply bonded to their abuser than they do to people who actually consistently treat them well.

Most people looking from the outside don't understand why you don't just leave. Well, you know you need to and want to leave someone, but you simply cannot bring yourself to cut them out of your life.

How to Break Free

Educate Yourself.

Get a Therapist to sort it out in your mind.

Go No Contact is imperative for healing.

Focus on healthy bonds, but take care of yourself.

Make yourself the number one priority.

Challenge yourself to do new things.

Take a break from dating.