Ten years ago, before Jeep, a
real struggle in my life began. So much was changing for me. My two boys were
getting older, not needing me like they used to. I was burned out from several
years of volunteering with various groups my kids were involved in. I was
exhausted from making sure my dyslexic son was getting what he needed in
school. And... I was realizing I was getting older, my body was changing, which
not only affected me physically, but mentally. I was going through a big
life transition without realizing what was happening.
My life was all about my kids and family. I loved my kids. I gave them 150 percent. I will never ever regret a single moment. I have so many wonderful memories, and times shared with them.As they started wanting their own space and time, I had time to fill. During that time, I struggled for a direction, for a purpose. I had been a stay-at-home mom for twelve years. I started paying attention to those needs I left on the back burner, I realized what I once enjoyed was no longer something I enjoyed. My career in television news wasn't an option, so what was next for me, what could I do?
I was depressed. Life was too quickly passing me by.
Then along came my Jeep. A spur of the moment impulse buy.
Some people call it a mid life crisis, but I call it a life transition.
That impulse buy changed my whole life. I began to reflect on my life. I went in search of my passion & purpose cause I didn’t have one. I did find it after a lot of reflection. I found it buried deep inside of me.
First – Find some quiet time to sit down and reflect. You will need to ask some hard questions.
Inventory your talents
Forget about what you’re good at but don’t like doing. I’m talking about the things you have a knack for that you enjoy doing. Are there things you like to do that you don’t think you’re that good at, that other people have complimented you on? Perhaps you even dismissed or rejected their enthusiasm. You don’t have to be good at something for it to qualify as a passion. You don't have to ever earn a penny of income from it either. When it comes to your passions, the only thing that matters is that you enjoy them.
Notice when you lose track of time, or what you hate to stop doing.
What would you love to spend hours doing, that you never get enough time to do?
That’s a passion, and you probably need to do it more than you are.
Think of what you loved to do as a child
I looked far back into my childhood trying to remember what I enjoyed to do, what I wanted to be, and what I was curious about.
Now, Make a List, of three to five things you enjoy -- really enjoy. Go experience these loves. You might even need to step out of your comfort zone and push past your fears. Try new experiences. Clearing out the things that hold you back and aren’t fulfilling. It won't happen over night, possibly not even in the next couple of months, just keep pushing forward and continue to reflect and ask yourself questions. It takes a lot of soul searching and serious thought to discover your purpose in life.
For some this is an easy answer, but others this could take months, even years of reflection and answering questions that require you into dig deep into your soul, uncovering what holds you back and what derails you from your happiness.
Discovering and claiming something you love to do has an amazing effect on your entire life. Make time for these things, whatever you can manage, and watch your life start to change. It’s really magical.
Searching for my passion changed my life and helped me fill that empty hole. It helped me to discover myself again and circle back around to my core passion. Sharing stories on my Jeep Momma blog, and now on my You Tube channel Jeep life withJeep Momma. Combining my loves for the 3 O’s off roading, overlanding, and the outdoors along with my Jeep and a core need for sharing and inspiring has helped me finally find my passion and purpose.
Now I don't look at life with the same fear of getting older. I just take it one story at a time, one day at a time and one new adventure at a time.