Gaslighting is form of emotional and psychological manipulating using the primary techniques of withholding, countering, blocking, trivializing and denial. This effort undermines the truth and causes confusion for the victim making them question their own emotions and sanity. Gaslighting a victim over a long period of time destroys the victims self-esteem and self-confidence creating insecurity and denying their own intuition.
Once you figure out the problem is not you, the rebuilding process can begin. It can be a long, arduous journey depending on how long the abuse has been going on.
Working on your "Self's" is so important. Here are links to tips on how to take care of some of your "Self's".
Another self is Self-Confidence which is trusting your judgment, capacities and abilities. A strong self-confidence helps your self-esteem.
Tips on Building Your Self-Confidence
Surround Yourself with Positive People
Stop Comparing Yourself with Others
Take Care of Your Body
Be Kind to Yourself
Practice Positive Self-Talk
Face Your Fears
Laugh at Yourself
Admit Mistakes & Accept Responsibility
Stay Open Minded
Signs of Gaslighting
You doubt your feelings and reality.
You question your judgment and perceptions.
You feel vulnerable and insecure.
You feel alone and powerless.
You wonder if you are what they say you are.
You are disappointed in yourself and who you have become.
You feel confused.
You worry that you are too sensitive.
You have a sense of impending doom.
You apologize a lot.
You feel inadequate.
You second-guess yourself.
You assume others are disappointed in you.
You wonder what's wrong with you.
You struggle to make decisions because you distrust yourself.