Wednesday, December 29, 2021


 Pilgrimage of Healing my Heart, Mind and Soul - Day 38

I know there are people out there wondering what are you healing from? 
A break up? Break ups happen all the time. They are a normal part of life. That is true. 

However, not all relationships are "normal". As I research to try to get answers to understand why I feel the way I do, I am finding mine was certainly far from normal, but not rare.  There are millions of people who face these types of relationships daily. Emotional manipulation can play havoc on your brain. It can mess with how you feel about your "Selfs". That is what I am focusing on, healing me and my many selfs. 

With the information super highway at our fingertips it makes it easier to educate yourself. Knowledge is so important to understanding the why's and the how to's. For me understanding is an important process in healing. I need to be able to move on as well as not to make the same mistakes again. When your eyes are wide open and you are knowledgeable, you can make better decisions. Researching and talking to others with the same experience is vital to healing. It helps you to realize you are not alone. There are people out there who understand what you are going through. 

One of the first steps in my healing is learning about the different selfs, and the role they play in my life. Then I can begin to create boundaries for myself. Those boundaries can help me to have healthy relationships. 

For me Step 1 was learning I am WORTH!  Self-Worth Blog Post 11/21/21 Step 2 was learning how to value myself. Self-ValueBlog Post 12/09/21  Now I delve into my Self-image. Right now it is not very healthy. 

Self-Image is how you see yourself internally and externally. It is how you feel about yourself based on your appearance and what kind of person you believe you are. Self-Image is a part of your self-esteem. 

One of the important aspects of having a good self-image is being able to forgive yourself for past mistakes. Just because you made mistakes in the past doesn't mean you are a "bad person"  You need to let go of a self-image you may have based on other people's judgments. That is one of my biggest hurdles, caring about what other people think of me and believing those judgments.  

Steps to take to help improve your Self-Image

Forgive yourself
Spend time with supportive people
Don't fall into the comparison trap
Don't let the haters stop you from being you
Exercise, Good sleep and healthy food
Do what you enjoy

More ways to improve your self-image article 

For a deeper look at self-image check out this article

Thursday, December 23, 2021

Get That Dopamine Flowing

Pilgrimage of Healing My Heart, Mind and Soul - Day 32

With the New Year upon us, traditionally it is time to come up with a New Year's Resolution. Typically these rarely work because we set big, overly ambitious resolutions. They become overwhelming and too much, so we give up on them. 

The same goes with creating your bucket list. There are lists all over the internet of unattainable ideas for us average folk. We would all love to see these exciting places in the world, but who has that kind of money and time? All you do is set yourself up for disappointment in creating an unrealistic "Bucket List" and unrealistic "Goals or Resolutions".

See My Adventure Bucket List Below

I look at my goals and bucket list the same way. I create attainable, short-term goals and adventures that are quick wins that leave me feeling accomplished. Feeling good about yourself is good for the mind and soul which motivates you to do more.

I like to set goals that are simple, measurable and attainable. In my past experiences, small, short-term goals are much easier to accomplish than big out of this world goal. I also update my goals every couple of months. It is good to re-evaluate them periodically.

Short-term Goal

Short term goals can help you achieve your "bigger" goals. They are called short for a reason, because you can accomplish them in a quick time frame. By understanding how the brain processes success and failure helps you jump start your productivity to create winning ways. These winning ways help put an end to failed New Year's Resolutions. These small wins propel you to bigger successes. 

The more times you succeed at something, the longer your brain stores the information that allowed you to do so well in the first place. That’s because with each success, our brain releases a chemical called dopamine. When dopamine flows into the brain's reward pathway (the part responsible for pleasure, learning and motivation), we not only feel greater concentration but are inspired to re-experience the activity that caused the chemical release in the first place."  


29 Goals for a Fulfilling Life - Click Here

Psychologists studied good goal-making and found the S.M.A.R.T. goal technique as successful

Simple: Make it straightforward with few words. More than that will begin to feel overwhelming.

Measurable: Your goal should be easily quantifiable. Find a way to tell whether you’re doing it or not and track that.

Attainable: Be reasonable with yourself: It’s great to be ambitious in the long term, but short-term goals should be achievable steps toward growth.

Relevant: Why is this goal important? Does it enhance or conflict with larger goals? Does it align with your current physical, mental, or financial reality?

Time-based: Goals should have a time frame assigned to them so you can adjust or improve as you go


Attainable Bucket List Ideas for the New Year to get you started

1. Make a drastic change- cut your hair, move, paint your nails black instead of red. 

2. Leave your mark somewhere cool. Leave A Legacy Click Here

3. Adopt a pet from a shelter.

4. Set a goal and meet it. It could be a small goal to get you started to that feeling of accomplishment. If you are trying to get healthy you might set the goal of drink only water for that week. 

5. Face at least one of your fears, no matter how stupid.

6. Buy someone a drink from across the bar.

7. Get a pen pal, the old fashioned way by writing letters and mailing them.

8. Learn a weird skill like juggling, or how to moon walk - Click Here for more ideas 

9. Have a picnic.

10. Make your own bucket list.

I recently checked off "Standing on the Corner of Winslow, Arizona", the "River-
walk" in San Antonio, and Sturgis (not during Bike Week). They weren't extravagant adventures but I got to at least visit these places. I would like to go back to all three of these places one day. Check out Jeep Momma's Top 5 Must See Towns Across America

Jeep Momma's Top 10 Must See Towns Across America

Jeep Momma Adventure Bucket List Ideas

Yellowstone National Park
Grand Tetons
Bryce National Park
Crater of the Moon
The Alamo
Zion National Park
Mount Rainier
Olympic National Park
Cannon Beach
Crater Lake
Winslow, Arizona
Death Valley
The Keys
Mount Washington
North Rim Grand Canyon
White Pocket, Arizona
Crawl Daddy at Rausch Creek
Rock Creek at Rausch Creek
Wheel the Kentucky Adventure Trail
Off Road at Windrock Off-Road Park
Overland thru Canada to Alaska
Biker Week in Sturgis
Hike Old Rag
Hike part of the Pacific Crest Trail
Gold Mine in Alaska
Visit a "Dude Ranch"
Hike & Wheel Big Bend National Park
Visit My Family Farm in Norway 

Tuesday, December 21, 2021

Jeep Momma's Top 10 Must See Towns Across America

Must Add to Your Bucket List

Saguache, Monte Vista, Del Norte [San Luis Valley, Colorado]

Saguache, Home of the Original Jeep Rescue League, in the heart of the Rockies, a must see! Several vintage and antique Jeeps on display along with some cool military vehicles. The headquarters is also home to several military exhibits.

Saving Jeeps one Jeep at a Time Blog Post 

Nearby this small mountain town is Elephant rocks, and Natural Arch just a short drive from Del Norte, Colorado. Del Norte is settled along the Rio Grande River which is a great place for some fishing. About an hour's drive is Great Sand Dunes National Park and Zapata Falls. There is a fun off-road trail in the Sand Dunes park up to Medano pass where you can see some amazing views. 

Nearby is Monte Vista home to the Crane Festival where you will find more 4x4 trails. Just a short drive from Monte Vista is the trail Bishop's Rock as well as trails that will lead you to Elwood Pass as well. The Gaia GPS app will help you find these trails. 

There is a Jeep adventure in all directions from the San Luis Valley. Check out the Chinaman's Gulch Trail & Carnage Canyon a trail for only series rock crawlers just over Poncha Springs Pass, near Buena Vista Colorado.  A mecca of fun for any overlander. See other my other Colorado towns for more great Jeep Trails.

Moab, Utah

A must stop for every off-roader! However, you don't need to be an off-roader to enjoy Moab. There is so much beauty to see. Arches National Park, Canyonlands National Park, The Colorado River, 3 Scenic By-ways - Utah 128 is absolutely breathtaking, Deadhorse state park and nearby ghost town Cisco. 

Jeep Momma Moab Adventure

Oatman, Arizona

A small village on old Route 66 in Mojave County, Arizona. Fun shops and "wild" Burros that wander the streets. The Burros are descendants of the burros brought to the area by the miners. In the early 1900's Oatman, a tent city, was a thriving gold mining center.  

Creede, Colorado

 A quaint small town nestled in the mountains of Colorado. Main Street shopping, nearby Stoney Creek Pass a 4x4 trail that takes you to the Alpine Loop Near Silverton, Colorado. There are other great scenic drives bachelor’s Loop Tour a 22-mile scenic off road drive up and around the historic mining district. The trail is rated moderate. Just down the road is Pool Table Road which takes you the Wheeler Geological Area which has the most fantastic geological features in the San Juan Mountains. Another must see North Clear Creek Falls and South Clear Creek Fall Unexpected scenic waterfall just off the highway

Lake City, Colorado

Once you leave Creede, Colorado you just take scenic by-way Colorado 149 up to Lake City, Colorado. Another quaint little town nestled in the San Juan Mountain range. Rocky Canyons with high valley floors and crystalline flowing rivers with miles of outdoor beauty. A small town with big history, Lake San Cristobal with boating, fishing, and other water activities. Plenty of hiking opportunities and Ghost towns nearby.  Engineer Pass A Jeep Badge of Honor Tour, one of Colorado's highest roads takes you over to the Alpine Loop which is full of mining history and ghost towns.  

Silverton, Colorado

You can either take Stoney Pass from Creede, Colorado or Engineer Pass from Lake City to The Alpine Loop which takes you directly to this National Historic Landmark and former mining boomtown full of mining history. A cute little town with great shops and restaurants.  There are miles and miles of old mining roads winding in and around the mountains with amazing views.  An off-roaders dream come true. Nearby Engineer Pass, Poughkeepsie Gulch two Jeep Badge of Honor Trails. Corkscrew Pass and Cinnamon Pass are close by too.   

Winslow, Arizona

Another fun stop along old Route 66 with fun shops and a place where you can "Take it Easy".  The town has made a great effort to make this stop special.  A place made famous by the Eagles hit Take It Easy.  A must stop is the Standin' on the Corner Park from the lyrics of the Eagles hit! 

Standin' on the corner of Winslow, Arizona

Bar Harbor, Maine

Lots and lots of shopping and good food! Plus Acadia National Park nearby! 

Taos, New Mexico

One of the prettiest mountain towns in America with an amazing scenic location in the majestic Sangre de Cristo Mountains. Taos has a unique art community and known for its adobe building and historic architecture. There is a world class ski resort nearby along with the most photographed and iconic churches. Close by is a must see Rio Grande Gorge Bridge National Monument. The tenth highest bridge in America. I had no idea it was even there the time I drove to Texas from Colorado. You don’t even realize you are on the bridge until it is too late, and you look down and if you are afraid of heights you will scream like I did. There is a scenic drive that circles through the Carson National Forest. An 83-mile loop through the mountains, valleys, mesa, and national forestland peppered with small community destinations full of activities and annual events. This drive is centered around Wheeler Peak at 13,159 feet, the highest point in the state. There are several places in the area to take your Jeep Off Road.

Salem, Massachusetts

Step back in time the many ghost or witch tours, there are plenty to choose from when you visit this unusual ~cursed at one time~ town. I spent two days in Salem in 2016 an learned a lot about the Salem witches. It was extremely interesting to hear about all the curses and stories about the witch trials. A must stop is Murphys Bar, said to be haunted by the ghosts in the cemetery right next to the building. I couldn’t find much off roading near Salem but if you are into the water there are many maritime activities. The Misery Islands are nearby, as well. 

More Haunted Places in Salem

Thursday, December 9, 2021


Pilgrimage to Healing My Heart, Mind and Soul Day 21

In a previous post I shared how Self-Worth is the back bone of your "selfs". An important part of healing from emotional abuse is knowing you are worth. You need to know you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect. Self-Worth along with Self-Value are integral roles in how you see and treat yourself in everyday life. 

We have all gone through emotional abuse in some form through out our lives. Emotional abuse is a wide spectrum of words and behaviors that are meant to diminish your self-esteem and make you feel less than. 

These types of toxic relationships are a danger to your Self-Worth and Self-Value. It is time to stop being taken advantage of and being taken for granted. These relationships are demanding but you get so little.

Signs of Emotional Abuse

  • Insults
  • Put Downs
  • Name Calling
  • Public Embarrassment
  • Constant Blame
  • Intimidation
  • Isolation
  • Making Threats
  • Rejection
  • Pretending not to notice you
  • Pretending not to hear you
  • Stonewalling
  • Controlling Money
Until you educate yourself and realize this type of behavior is unacceptable, you will continue this cycle in all your relationships. When you finally make the decision to leave, you can begin to heal. 

The first step in my healing is knowing and telling myself I AM WORTH! The next step is working on Self-Value. Self-Worth is more emotional and Self-Value is more actionable like walk the walk and talk the talk. We take the foundation of how we feel about ,ourselves and put it to work. 

Having a healthy sense of self-worth helps us to make good decisions on our life path and the relationships we form. Self-value is an action that keeps us aligned with our self-worth. 

The following tips are my next steps on my pilgrimage. 

How to Value Yourself (Click here for more)

Acknowledge the Inner Critic
Receive a Compliment
Be Grateful for Effort
Forgive Yourself Often
Practice Affirmations in the Mirror
Give Attention to Your Dreams
Let Go of Comparison
 Accept Yourself as You Are
Don’t Settle for Less

Learning to value yourself requires a gentle shift in perspective to how you show up in your life. Such small yet potent changes can make all the difference for yourself and the greater good.

Here is a great article on when you value others it improves your self-value! PhyscologyTODAY article

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the universe, deserve your love and affection” – Buddha

Wednesday, December 1, 2021

Live in the Moment

Experiences not stuff... That is what life is all about. I have
been on a life changing journey the past eight years. I found my kids didn't need their mom like they used to need me. It is a whole new level of being of mom, which freed up my time and life.

My marriage was struggling then finally came to an end. Sometimes people decide to go down different paths in life. That's okay. You need to take the path that will make you happy. My kids helped me realize that. 

Letting go to enjoy living in the moment is hard. 

To live in the moment can be difficult. There is quite a bit of brain re-training that needs to be done which takes time. I didn't really start living in the moment until I did my first cross country adventure. I learned the gift of letting go. I still have a long ways to go, but I am getting there. 

When my youngest son came to visit me for a month, I knew I needed to let go and enjoy our time together.  Time with him is precious so I savored every moment.  

There are some things you think you need to get done right this minute, but you don't. Some things you don't even need to do at all. Just because you have a "to do" list doesn't mean you need to do it. Dishes can wait, laundry can wait, but time with your loved ones can't. Living in the moment means letting go of the past, and not waiting for the future. It is living your live consciously, aware that each moment you breathe is a gift, being in the present moment. You can still have a plan and goals, those are good but enjoy the present.

Top 5  Ways to Live in the Moment


Stop Worrying About Tomorrow

Always Move Forward

Pay Attention to the Small Things

Practice Gratitude


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