Wednesday, December 29, 2021


 Pilgrimage of Healing my Heart, Mind and Soul - Day 38

I know there are people out there wondering what are you healing from? 
A break up? Break ups happen all the time. They are a normal part of life. That is true. 

However, not all relationships are "normal". As I research to try to get answers to understand why I feel the way I do, I am finding mine was certainly far from normal, but not rare.  There are millions of people who face these types of relationships daily. Emotional manipulation can play havoc on your brain. It can mess with how you feel about your "Selfs". That is what I am focusing on, healing me and my many selfs. 

With the information super highway at our fingertips it makes it easier to educate yourself. Knowledge is so important to understanding the why's and the how to's. For me understanding is an important process in healing. I need to be able to move on as well as not to make the same mistakes again. When your eyes are wide open and you are knowledgeable, you can make better decisions. Researching and talking to others with the same experience is vital to healing. It helps you to realize you are not alone. There are people out there who understand what you are going through. 

One of the first steps in my healing is learning about the different selfs, and the role they play in my life. Then I can begin to create boundaries for myself. Those boundaries can help me to have healthy relationships. 

For me Step 1 was learning I am WORTH!  Self-Worth Blog Post 11/21/21 Step 2 was learning how to value myself. Self-ValueBlog Post 12/09/21  Now I delve into my Self-image. Right now it is not very healthy. 

Self-Image is how you see yourself internally and externally. It is how you feel about yourself based on your appearance and what kind of person you believe you are. Self-Image is a part of your self-esteem. 

One of the important aspects of having a good self-image is being able to forgive yourself for past mistakes. Just because you made mistakes in the past doesn't mean you are a "bad person"  You need to let go of a self-image you may have based on other people's judgments. That is one of my biggest hurdles, caring about what other people think of me and believing those judgments.  

Steps to take to help improve your Self-Image

Forgive yourself
Spend time with supportive people
Don't fall into the comparison trap
Don't let the haters stop you from being you
Exercise, Good sleep and healthy food
Do what you enjoy

More ways to improve your self-image article 

For a deeper look at self-image check out this article

Thursday, December 23, 2021

Get That Dopamine Flowing

Pilgrimage of Healing My Heart, Mind and Soul - Day 32

With the New Year upon us, traditionally it is time to come up with a New Year's Resolution. Typically these rarely work because we set big, overly ambitious resolutions. They become overwhelming and too much, so we give up on them. 

The same goes with creating your bucket list. There are lists all over the internet of unattainable ideas for us average folk. We would all love to see these exciting places in the world, but who has that kind of money and time? All you do is set yourself up for disappointment in creating an unrealistic "Bucket List" and unrealistic "Goals or Resolutions".

See My Adventure Bucket List Below

I look at my goals and bucket list the same way. I create attainable, short-term goals and adventures that are quick wins that leave me feeling accomplished. Feeling good about yourself is good for the mind and soul which motivates you to do more.

I like to set goals that are simple, measurable and attainable. In my past experiences, small, short-term goals are much easier to accomplish than big out of this world goal. I also update my goals every couple of months. It is good to re-evaluate them periodically.

Short-term Goal

Short term goals can help you achieve your "bigger" goals. They are called short for a reason, because you can accomplish them in a quick time frame. By understanding how the brain processes success and failure helps you jump start your productivity to create winning ways. These winning ways help put an end to failed New Year's Resolutions. These small wins propel you to bigger successes. 

The more times you succeed at something, the longer your brain stores the information that allowed you to do so well in the first place. That’s because with each success, our brain releases a chemical called dopamine. When dopamine flows into the brain's reward pathway (the part responsible for pleasure, learning and motivation), we not only feel greater concentration but are inspired to re-experience the activity that caused the chemical release in the first place."  


29 Goals for a Fulfilling Life - Click Here

Psychologists studied good goal-making and found the S.M.A.R.T. goal technique as successful

Simple: Make it straightforward with few words. More than that will begin to feel overwhelming.

Measurable: Your goal should be easily quantifiable. Find a way to tell whether you’re doing it or not and track that.

Attainable: Be reasonable with yourself: It’s great to be ambitious in the long term, but short-term goals should be achievable steps toward growth.

Relevant: Why is this goal important? Does it enhance or conflict with larger goals? Does it align with your current physical, mental, or financial reality?

Time-based: Goals should have a time frame assigned to them so you can adjust or improve as you go


Attainable Bucket List Ideas for the New Year to get you started

1. Make a drastic change- cut your hair, move, paint your nails black instead of red. 

2. Leave your mark somewhere cool. Leave A Legacy Click Here

3. Adopt a pet from a shelter.

4. Set a goal and meet it. It could be a small goal to get you started to that feeling of accomplishment. If you are trying to get healthy you might set the goal of drink only water for that week. 

5. Face at least one of your fears, no matter how stupid.

6. Buy someone a drink from across the bar.

7. Get a pen pal, the old fashioned way by writing letters and mailing them.

8. Learn a weird skill like juggling, or how to moon walk - Click Here for more ideas 

9. Have a picnic.

10. Make your own bucket list.

I recently checked off "Standing on the Corner of Winslow, Arizona", the "River-
walk" in San Antonio, and Sturgis (not during Bike Week). They weren't extravagant adventures but I got to at least visit these places. I would like to go back to all three of these places one day. Check out Jeep Momma's Top 5 Must See Towns Across America

Jeep Momma's Top 10 Must See Towns Across America

Jeep Momma Adventure Bucket List Ideas

Yellowstone National Park
Grand Tetons
Bryce National Park
Crater of the Moon
The Alamo
Zion National Park
Mount Rainier
Olympic National Park
Cannon Beach
Crater Lake
Winslow, Arizona
Death Valley
The Keys
Mount Washington
North Rim Grand Canyon
White Pocket, Arizona
Crawl Daddy at Rausch Creek
Rock Creek at Rausch Creek
Wheel the Kentucky Adventure Trail
Off Road at Windrock Off-Road Park
Overland thru Canada to Alaska
Biker Week in Sturgis
Hike Old Rag
Hike part of the Pacific Crest Trail
Gold Mine in Alaska
Visit a "Dude Ranch"
Hike & Wheel Big Bend National Park
Visit My Family Farm in Norway 

Tuesday, December 21, 2021

Jeep Momma's Top 10 Must See Towns Across America

Must Add to Your Bucket List

Saguache, Monte Vista, Del Norte [San Luis Valley, Colorado]

Saguache, Home of the Original Jeep Rescue League, in the heart of the Rockies, a must see! Several vintage and antique Jeeps on display along with some cool military vehicles. The headquarters is also home to several military exhibits.

Saving Jeeps one Jeep at a Time Blog Post 

Nearby this small mountain town is Elephant rocks, and Natural Arch just a short drive from Del Norte, Colorado. Del Norte is settled along the Rio Grande River which is a great place for some fishing. About an hour's drive is Great Sand Dunes National Park and Zapata Falls. There is a fun off-road trail in the Sand Dunes park up to Medano pass where you can see some amazing views. 

Nearby is Monte Vista home to the Crane Festival where you will find more 4x4 trails. Just a short drive from Monte Vista is the trail Bishop's Rock as well as trails that will lead you to Elwood Pass as well. The Gaia GPS app will help you find these trails. 

There is a Jeep adventure in all directions from the San Luis Valley. Check out the Chinaman's Gulch Trail & Carnage Canyon a trail for only series rock crawlers just over Poncha Springs Pass, near Buena Vista Colorado.  A mecca of fun for any overlander. See other my other Colorado towns for more great Jeep Trails.

Moab, Utah

A must stop for every off-roader! However, you don't need to be an off-roader to enjoy Moab. There is so much beauty to see. Arches National Park, Canyonlands National Park, The Colorado River, 3 Scenic By-ways - Utah 128 is absolutely breathtaking, Deadhorse state park and nearby ghost town Cisco. 

Jeep Momma Moab Adventure

Oatman, Arizona

A small village on old Route 66 in Mojave County, Arizona. Fun shops and "wild" Burros that wander the streets. The Burros are descendants of the burros brought to the area by the miners. In the early 1900's Oatman, a tent city, was a thriving gold mining center.  

Creede, Colorado

 A quaint small town nestled in the mountains of Colorado. Main Street shopping, nearby Stoney Creek Pass a 4x4 trail that takes you to the Alpine Loop Near Silverton, Colorado. There are other great scenic drives bachelor’s Loop Tour a 22-mile scenic off road drive up and around the historic mining district. The trail is rated moderate. Just down the road is Pool Table Road which takes you the Wheeler Geological Area which has the most fantastic geological features in the San Juan Mountains. Another must see North Clear Creek Falls and South Clear Creek Fall Unexpected scenic waterfall just off the highway

Lake City, Colorado

Once you leave Creede, Colorado you just take scenic by-way Colorado 149 up to Lake City, Colorado. Another quaint little town nestled in the San Juan Mountain range. Rocky Canyons with high valley floors and crystalline flowing rivers with miles of outdoor beauty. A small town with big history, Lake San Cristobal with boating, fishing, and other water activities. Plenty of hiking opportunities and Ghost towns nearby.  Engineer Pass A Jeep Badge of Honor Tour, one of Colorado's highest roads takes you over to the Alpine Loop which is full of mining history and ghost towns.  

Silverton, Colorado

You can either take Stoney Pass from Creede, Colorado or Engineer Pass from Lake City to The Alpine Loop which takes you directly to this National Historic Landmark and former mining boomtown full of mining history. A cute little town with great shops and restaurants.  There are miles and miles of old mining roads winding in and around the mountains with amazing views.  An off-roaders dream come true. Nearby Engineer Pass, Poughkeepsie Gulch two Jeep Badge of Honor Trails. Corkscrew Pass and Cinnamon Pass are close by too.   

Winslow, Arizona

Another fun stop along old Route 66 with fun shops and a place where you can "Take it Easy".  The town has made a great effort to make this stop special.  A place made famous by the Eagles hit Take It Easy.  A must stop is the Standin' on the Corner Park from the lyrics of the Eagles hit! 

Standin' on the corner of Winslow, Arizona

Bar Harbor, Maine

Lots and lots of shopping and good food! Plus Acadia National Park nearby! 

Taos, New Mexico

One of the prettiest mountain towns in America with an amazing scenic location in the majestic Sangre de Cristo Mountains. Taos has a unique art community and known for its adobe building and historic architecture. There is a world class ski resort nearby along with the most photographed and iconic churches. Close by is a must see Rio Grande Gorge Bridge National Monument. The tenth highest bridge in America. I had no idea it was even there the time I drove to Texas from Colorado. You don’t even realize you are on the bridge until it is too late, and you look down and if you are afraid of heights you will scream like I did. There is a scenic drive that circles through the Carson National Forest. An 83-mile loop through the mountains, valleys, mesa, and national forestland peppered with small community destinations full of activities and annual events. This drive is centered around Wheeler Peak at 13,159 feet, the highest point in the state. There are several places in the area to take your Jeep Off Road.

Salem, Massachusetts

Step back in time the many ghost or witch tours, there are plenty to choose from when you visit this unusual ~cursed at one time~ town. I spent two days in Salem in 2016 an learned a lot about the Salem witches. It was extremely interesting to hear about all the curses and stories about the witch trials. A must stop is Murphys Bar, said to be haunted by the ghosts in the cemetery right next to the building. I couldn’t find much off roading near Salem but if you are into the water there are many maritime activities. The Misery Islands are nearby, as well. 

More Haunted Places in Salem

Thursday, December 9, 2021


Pilgrimage to Healing My Heart, Mind and Soul Day 21

In a previous post I shared how Self-Worth is the back bone of your "selfs". An important part of healing from emotional abuse is knowing you are worth. You need to know you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect. Self-Worth along with Self-Value are integral roles in how you see and treat yourself in everyday life. 

We have all gone through emotional abuse in some form through out our lives. Emotional abuse is a wide spectrum of words and behaviors that are meant to diminish your self-esteem and make you feel less than. 

These types of toxic relationships are a danger to your Self-Worth and Self-Value. It is time to stop being taken advantage of and being taken for granted. These relationships are demanding but you get so little.

Signs of Emotional Abuse

  • Insults
  • Put Downs
  • Name Calling
  • Public Embarrassment
  • Constant Blame
  • Intimidation
  • Isolation
  • Making Threats
  • Rejection
  • Pretending not to notice you
  • Pretending not to hear you
  • Stonewalling
  • Controlling Money
Until you educate yourself and realize this type of behavior is unacceptable, you will continue this cycle in all your relationships. When you finally make the decision to leave, you can begin to heal. 

The first step in my healing is knowing and telling myself I AM WORTH! The next step is working on Self-Value. Self-Worth is more emotional and Self-Value is more actionable like walk the walk and talk the talk. We take the foundation of how we feel about ,ourselves and put it to work. 

Having a healthy sense of self-worth helps us to make good decisions on our life path and the relationships we form. Self-value is an action that keeps us aligned with our self-worth. 

The following tips are my next steps on my pilgrimage. 

How to Value Yourself (Click here for more)

Acknowledge the Inner Critic
Receive a Compliment
Be Grateful for Effort
Forgive Yourself Often
Practice Affirmations in the Mirror
Give Attention to Your Dreams
Let Go of Comparison
 Accept Yourself as You Are
Don’t Settle for Less

Learning to value yourself requires a gentle shift in perspective to how you show up in your life. Such small yet potent changes can make all the difference for yourself and the greater good.

Here is a great article on when you value others it improves your self-value! PhyscologyTODAY article

“You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the universe, deserve your love and affection” – Buddha

Wednesday, December 1, 2021

Live in the Moment

Experiences not stuff... That is what life is all about. I have
been on a life changing journey the past eight years. I found my kids didn't need their mom like they used to need me. It is a whole new level of being of mom, which freed up my time and life.

My marriage was struggling then finally came to an end. Sometimes people decide to go down different paths in life. That's okay. You need to take the path that will make you happy. My kids helped me realize that. 

Letting go to enjoy living in the moment is hard. 

To live in the moment can be difficult. There is quite a bit of brain re-training that needs to be done which takes time. I didn't really start living in the moment until I did my first cross country adventure. I learned the gift of letting go. I still have a long ways to go, but I am getting there. 

When my youngest son came to visit me for a month, I knew I needed to let go and enjoy our time together.  Time with him is precious so I savored every moment.  

There are some things you think you need to get done right this minute, but you don't. Some things you don't even need to do at all. Just because you have a "to do" list doesn't mean you need to do it. Dishes can wait, laundry can wait, but time with your loved ones can't. Living in the moment means letting go of the past, and not waiting for the future. It is living your live consciously, aware that each moment you breathe is a gift, being in the present moment. You can still have a plan and goals, those are good but enjoy the present.

Top 5  Ways to Live in the Moment


Stop Worrying About Tomorrow

Always Move Forward

Pay Attention to the Small Things

Practice Gratitude


Monday, November 29, 2021

How To Find Your Passion

Ten years ago, before Jeep, a real struggle in my life began. So much was changing for me. My two boys were getting older, not needing me like they used to. I was burned out from several years of volunteering with various groups my kids were involved in. I was exhausted from making sure my dyslexic son was getting what he needed in school. And... I was realizing I was getting older, my body was changing, which not only affected me physically, but mentally. I was going through a big life transition without realizing what was happening.

My life was all about my kids and family. I loved my kids. I gave them 150 percent. I will never ever regret a single moment. I have so many wonderful memories, and times shared with them.

[How To] Find Your Passion - A Jeep Momma Video

As they started wanting their own space and time, I had time to fill. During that time, I struggled for a direction, for a purpose. I had been a stay-at-home mom for twelve years.  I started paying attention to those needs I left on the back burner, I realized what I once enjoyed was no longer something I enjoyed. My career in television news wasn't an option, so what was next for me, what could I do?
I was depressed. Life was too quickly passing me by.

Then along came my Jeep. A spur of the moment impulse buy.
Some people call it a mid life crisis, but I call it a life transition. 

That impulse buy changed my whole life. I began to reflect on my life. I went in search of my passion & purpose cause I didn’t have one. I did find it after a lot of reflection. I found it buried deep inside of me.  

First – Find some quiet time to sit down and reflect. You will need to ask some hard questions.

Inventory your talents

What are you good at or have
 a natural aptitude for?

Forget about what you’re good at but don’t like doing. I’m talking about the things you have a knack for that you enjoy doing.  Are there things you like to do that you don’t think you’re that good at, that other people have complimented you on? Perhaps you even dismissed or rejected their enthusiasm. You don’t have to be good at something for it to qualify as a passion. You don't have to ever earn a penny of income from it either. When it comes to your passions, the only thing that matters is that you enjoy them.

Notice when you lose track of time, or what you hate to stop doing.

What would you love to spend hours doing, that you never get enough time to do? 

That’s a passion, and you probably need to do it more than you are.

Think of what you loved to do as a child

I looked far back into my childhood trying to remember what I enjoyed to do, what I wanted to be, and what I was curious about. 

Now, Make a List, of three to five things you enjoy -- really enjoy. Go experience these loves. You might even need to step out of your comfort zone and push past your fears. Try new experiences. Clearing out the things that hold you back and aren’t fulfilling. It won't happen over night, possibly not even in the next couple of months, just keep pushing forward and continue to reflect and ask yourself questions. It takes a lot of soul searching and serious thought to discover your purpose in life.

For some this is an easy answer, but others this could take months, even years of reflection and answering questions that require you into dig deep into your soul, uncovering what holds you back and what derails you from your happiness.    

Discovering and claiming something you love to do has an amazing effect on your entire life. Make time for these things, whatever you can manage, and watch your life start to change. It’s really magical.

Searching for my passion changed my life and helped me fill that empty hole.  It helped me to discover myself again and circle back around to my core passion. Sharing stories on my Jeep Momma blog, and now on my You Tube channel Jeep life withJeep Momma.  Combining my loves for the 3 O’s off roading, overlanding, and the outdoors along with my Jeep and a core need for sharing and inspiring has helped me finally find my passion and purpose.  

Now I don't look at life with the same fear of getting older. I just take it one story at a time, one day at a time and one new adventure at a time. 

Monday, November 22, 2021

Taking Responsibility

Pilgrimage to Heal My Heart, Mind & Soul - Day 5

Life is a series of ups and downs. We all experience hurt and heartache, as well as joy and happiness. We have people who come into our lives who are not so nice to us, and people who lift us up and fill our cups. 

Our world has changed dramatically since I was a little kid. With the explosion of the internet then social media, a whole new set of problems plague us. One of those problems is the the way we see each others lives. 

Most people who post on social media only post the good stuff happening in their lives. Very few share those down times. I try to balance both to show there are other people out their experiencing difficulties in their life and not everything is good. 

Sharing about your life's low points doesn't make you a victim. I don't want to be considered a victim because of a hurt I may feel. Am I devastated right now? Of course, my life has been turned upside down. I am no longer with the person I love and shared an amazing journey with. I am no longer living my dream. 

I am now trying to get back up on my feet. I am looking at the role I played, what I did wrong, and what I did right. How I felt, and what I need to work on as a person.   

Being a victim is a mode of thinking in which you feel unhappy in life and powerless to change it. Life doesn't always go your way, and people get hurt, but that doesn't mean you are a victim. A victim blames others for their problems. I am taking ownership, I am looking at myself to figure out where I went wrong, and I can become a better person. I am not perfect, no one is, and it does take two people. I will do my part and work on what I find I need to work on.  

I don't share for pity or sympathy. I share to help others, so they know they are not alone on their rollercoaster ride of life. I share so they feel they can share, then we can all work on our problems together. Just like when I created the parents support group many years ago. We all had our issues, but we had each other to lean on for support. 

Friday, November 19, 2021

Know Your Self-Worth

Pilgrimage to Heal My Heart, Mind & Soul - Day 2

self-worth - noun

  • Self-esteem; self-respect.
  • The value one assigns to oneself or one's abilities in self assessment.
  • The quality of being worthy of esteem or respect
I am on a 7 day Self Worth Booster Course. Yesterday was Day 1. Self Worth is the backbone to all your "self's", self confidence, self esteem. You get the picture. As a society, there is a misbelief that money, success, popularity and possessions makes you worthy. I learned long ago that isn't true. I just did me.

Why do I still have anxiety?
Why am I a people pleaser neglecting my needs?

Those fears are there because of a deep seeded feeling I am unlovable. Over my lifetime I have made choices that don't fit in society's box, so society's judgments can wear you down. As well as I have come across many bullies who are condescending and controlling. One of my first memories as a child was two neighborhood boys taunting me daily.  So I have to remind myself they do this only to feel good about themselves. They are trying to make others feel inferior to them. 

I would beat myself up for my mistakes and dwell on them. I was terrified of criticism, and was striving for perfection. I need to stop that way of thinking and to rewire my brain as that diminishes my self worth. 

Build Back Your Self Worth HOW TO Day 1

I am a good person and deserve respect!  I have have kindness, compassion, empathy and respect for others. 


Love from another person does not define you. 

I am worthy of respect. 

I deserve to be treated with compassion and respect. 

This means holding healthy boundaries with others, expecting reciprocity in relationships, and knowing what you need to put yourself first.

Signs of Low Self Worth 

(Read More Click Here)

69 Signs of Low Self Worth - Click Here

Changing Yourself for Others

Seeking Approval from Others

Not Communicating Your Needs

Allowing Others to Take Advantage of You

No Self Love 

No Healthy Boundaries

No Self Belief

Being Afraid and Not Being Yourself

Thursday, November 18, 2021

Trials Make You Stronger

 Pilgrimage of Healing My Heart, Mind and Soul- Day 1

A good friend told me God puts us through difficult times so we can help others through difficult times. 

"Every trial God sends, even our daily frustrations are meant to test us and grow us stronger. If I want God to use me for big things, I must pass the little tests. If I don’t pass the little tests, why should I expect God to trust me with greater things?"

We all go through difficult times, some of us have greater  challenges than others. Most people don't understand how truly difficult a persons trials are because most of us face them alone, and do it quietly out of fear and embarrassment.

Typically I am not quiet about my trials. When I was facing struggles trying to get my son help in school I figured I wasn't the only one. I created a group for parents going through similar hardships. Facing the same issues together, we were able to help and support each other through our journey's. 

Now, I am facing a trying time most don't understand. Usually
people are wrapped up in their own issues, and because they don't see all the aspects of someone's trials, they cannot truly understand. 

I still don't fully understand what I am going through because you never believe something like this could happen to you. I am now on a pilgrimage to understand and heal with the hope of being able to share my experience to help others avoid this kind of pain. 

Trials Link 1

Trials Link 2 

Friday, July 9, 2021

Top 5 Must Do's When You Go Camping

Over time I have learned less is better when you go camping, as long as you are smart about what you pack. Everyone has different needs and wants, so it takes practice to figure out what works and what doesn’t for you. 

Must haves for me are a pillow, good sleeping bag, tent, camp chair, cast iron pan, and grate to cook on over the fire. Of course, food and water, but that is a given. What I have discovered is there is such a thing as bringing too much stuff. You don't want your adventure to be another chore. The less to set up or clean or pack up means more time relaxing and enjoying the moments. 

Top 5 "Must Do" Moments when Camping

Take in the Sunset  Get your camp chair and chill watching the sunse

Make a Campfire Camping is not the same without a campfire. Sit in your camp chair and watch the fire dance. 

Stargaze  Once the sun sets and the fire dies down look up at the sky and take in all those stars. It will blow your mind, out in the middle of nowhere in the dark, all those stars in the sky.

Campfire Breakfast  When you get up in the morning a breakfast cooked over the fire is a must. Bacon and eggs first thing in the morning out in the middle of nowhere is amazing.

Morning Chill In the morning before your amazing breakfast just lay there in your 
sleeping bag looking out your tent at the amazing beauty around you. Take it all in… deep breaths.

Camping and nature is so good for your soul. It takes away the stress if you do it right. I also helps you think more clearly. The best way to figure out what works for you to go out and do it. You will make mistakes and forget things. That’s how you learn what works for you. 

Tuesday, July 6, 2021

Top 5 Steps to Live Your Best Life

These past couple of days have been like stepping back in time. I am back out on the east coast visiting my kids. Hanging with them in my old house is very surreal, which has flooded my mind with a lot of old memories and feelings. Each time I come back this happens. However, this time it's different. This time, I am not overcome with emotions where I cry with shaking shoulders. This time something spiritual happened. All that emotion was taken away. Finally I can let it all go, so I can move on with my life. It has been a long process of healing. Not only that it has been even a longer process trying to live my best life. A journey of discovering myself again. 

When I became a mom 22 years ago I didn't realize I still needed to hang on to me. I still needed to have my own life. It is okay to hold onto that part of you, actually a necessary thing to do. I know a lot of stay-at-homes who neglect this part of their lives. The focus is all on being the best mom they can. In that process they lose a little of themselves each year. For me getting it back was almost a nine year process with a lot of tears and anger. 

Living your best life brings you happiness. Happiness isn't stuff or a full schedule or tons of friends. The media and corporate America have brainwashed us into believing tangible things will make us happy. Finding that true happiness is a process, a slow methodical process that worked for me. A burden was lifted each time and it felt good. 

Top 5 Steps to Live Your Best Life 

YouTube Video

Declutter your Stuff: 

Be purposeful about this. Go drawer by drawer, closet by closet. Then do it all again in a couple of months. Emotionally holding on to stuff bogs down your life. Stop using those excuses, "one day I will use it" or "I spent a lot of money on that I can't". That is living in the past or living in the future. Live in the here and now. 

Declutter Your Time:

Reduce your commitments like volunteering or events you attend. Re-evaluate your job. I started slowly with my volunteer commitments. I taught myself to say no. My job loss was not on purpose but being let go was a blessing in disguise. 

Declutter Your Electronic Life:

Reduce your time on social media, reduce the amount of social media you have, reduce your information overload, and most importantly disconnect from the world once in a while. Information overload can be debilitating. 

Information Overload Article

Declutter Your Relationships:

Cut out the negative people in your life. This is a hard one to do, but very necessary. Negative people are very draining emotionally.  

Declutter Your Past Emotions:

This was the hardest one for me to do. I was able to finally let go a couple of days ago. When I moved to Colorado in 2020 I knew I was on the road to my best life, but something was holding me back. My son Michael saw it. I was blinded by my own emotions. I was grieving a loss, so many losses, my home, my old life, my old friends, my marriage. There was a lot of unnecessary guilt I placed on myself and a lot of anger from wrongs done to me. I needed to forgive myself and let go of those wrongs before I could truly move on.  

Declutter & Simplify Links: Jeep Momma Blog Posts

Friday, May 28, 2021

Top 5 Group Wheeling Musts

"HOW TO" have a successful off-road trail ride. When you host a trail ride others look to you for guidance and leadership. Just because someone has a 4x4 vehicles doesn't necessarily mean they understand how a group trail ride needs to work to be successful and fun.

Top 5 Musts For a Successful Group Trail Ride

This is necessary anytime you wheel with new folks. Once you wheel with the same folks over and over, you most likely you won’t have to do this every time. But if you ever introduce someone new to your trail ride I suggest you go over these top 5 Must’s when group wheeling. 

First... A Trail Guide and Trail Gunner should be assigned. The Trail Guide should know the route and needs to always be the leader. The trail gunner is the last one in the group. Their responsible so no one gets left behind.  The folks in the middle have a group responsibility, as well. They must always make sure the Jeep or off road vehicle is behind them in the rear view mirror. 

Second... Trail meeting. Before you even hit the trail there should be a group meeting. This is a good time to go over some basic off road rules, like stay on the trail, don’t wander off by yourself, let them know the route, talk about how you will communicate on the trail whether with CB’s or horn honking, those kind of things.

Third... keep a decent distance between vehicles. Sometimes there is a lot of backing up and space may be needed on obstacles or going up an incline. There could be some wheel spin which means rocks could be flying. 

Fourth… If you are going up an incline or down one or going over a serious obstacle let the Jeep in front of you complete it before you begin your accent or decent. And 

Fifth… There are times on obstacles when after you have completed the obstacle you will need to stop and wait for the other vehicles to complete it. This is a good time to get out for videos and pictures plus, to see how someone else may wheel an obstacle. This is where you need to be very mindful of where you park. You will need to leave a lot of room for all the Jeeps to park after they have gone over the obstacle. Especially if on a hill. I have seen Jeepers not pull up far enough and some Jeepers can’t fully make it up or over the obstacle.  

After wheeling for seven years these simple but super important rules are second nature.  However, folks new to wheeling might not have a clue, so it’s good to educate them. 

Tuesday, March 2, 2021

#CamperLife Cold Weather Lessons Learned

Where I Live: The San Luis Valley in South Central Colorado near the New
Mexico border. The Rio Grande River runs through this valley. The Continental Divide and the San Juan Mountains are on the West and the Sangre De Cristo Mountains on the East. We are up at about 7900 feet above sea level, and the space between the mountains is a flat, dry desert of about 8000 square miles. We are surrounded by these majestic mountains. It’s very beautiful, and many days soul healing. Plus, the best part… there are hundreds of miles of trails from mild to wild within an hour’s drive with some even closer.  

There are so many to explore it is a little overwhelming. In the winter the temperatures drop and there typically is a lot of mountain snow. This year's snow has been mild, but the temperatures are bitterly cold. We have learned some tough lessons dealing with the cold and camping in our camper.

 Cold weather camper life tips from lessons learned.

There is a saying I learned while my kids were in Boy Scouts. It’s “Always be prepared”. Being prepared means to have a plan for every contingency you can think of, even if the possibility is low. Not only have a plan and a back up plan, but a back up plan to the back up plan. There are 4 major musts when living the #Camperlife in the cold temperatures: Good shelter, Water, Food and Heat. These are essential to basic survival in the cold weather. 

Good Shelter protects you from the elements. Most Campers and #VanLifers put a second layer of protection on their homes in the cold winter months. This would be a tarp over the top or some sort of “skirting” around the bottom of the RV or Camper. This helps keep the inside warm. 

I have used tarp around the bottom of our camper, but here in the valley it gets very windy, so this is not a good idea. The foam board is definitely the way to go. Just make sure it’s secured good. All the tarp does is blow off and makes scary noises at night while blowing. Sometimes I would wake up wondering if those mountain lions were trying to get into the camper. 

Investing in rugs and slippers is a good idea too. And plenty of blankets.  

Water Most campgrounds have water hook ups. In the winter these hook ups need to be insulated. Not just the hook ups, it’s a good idea to have a back up hose that you could plug in to keep it warm. A regular old hose will freeze up if the temps get low enough. You still need a back up plan to that back up hose. Not all campgrounds water hook ups are insulated well. Ours froze in the ground. So no water for us. That meant lots of water jugs. I am sure learning the art of perseverance living the camper life in the mountains of Colorado.

Food The good thing in the winter, if you lose power your cold food won’t go to waste as you can just store it outside. Just make sure it’s in an animal proof container. One day last year before we upgraded our camper with a bigger fridge, I needed extra space for cold food. I put it in a vinyl type cooler. One day when I got home, my roast, pack of chicken and pork chops were gone. The animal chewed right through the vinyl cooler. There are several containers on the market that are bear proof. 

Cooking the food is important too. Having several alternatives is a good idea from a
propane stove to a charcoal grill to a campfire which means you need some sort of cooking grill for over the fire. There are several varieties out there. We go with simple and easy and a grill that doesn’t take up a lot of space as we take ours tent camping.  You may even want to consider having your propane stove upgraded to be able to use a bigger propane tank.

Heat So important in the winter. We have many sources: propane, electric portable heaters, electric blanket that can plug into a battery and lots and lots of blankets and layers of sleeping clothes. Not only the propane heater in the camper, but a portable propane heater like the buddy heater. These are the kind that use the smaller green propane bottles. If you use these camping the little bottles, if using on high, only last about 4 hours. Another good idea is to have the capability to use a bigger propane bottle. That way at three in the morning you are not getting up in a cold tent or camper to change the bottle.

Deciding to leave your home and life a simpler life in a camper is not for everyone. If you like the creature comforts of a home you may want to rethink #camperlife. But if you don’t mind NOT having to spend a whole day cleaning your house or even ever vacuuming again and instead relaxing by a campfire or taking a leisurely walk through the mountain side you might want to consider #Camperlife. It has taught me so many lessons. It has taught me perseverance, and removed a lot of burdens from my shoulders.

A Journey into the Wild - Day 2

We woke up on day two of the 4Xploring adventure to an amazing sunrise, blue skies, fresh air and the smell of sausage and chorizo cooking. ...