Monday, February 15, 2021

Finding God

Change is a constant.
Change is personal.
Change can be hard.  

When faced with major life changes each person handles these transitions differently, just as different as we are as individuals. The level of "Transition Struggle" is due to different factors in our life, such as our energy, mindset, levels of stress, and history of resilience, just to name a few.  

For years, I struggled finding my place in the world. I was a
stay-at-home mom for 16 years, then began to transition out of being a full-time mom. It was a long, hard road navigating this change. Of course I will always a be a mom, but now in a different capacity. 

As I tried to work through that struggle, it put a strain on my marriage. Then the marriage became a struggle. Unfortunatly, my marriage came to an end. Last year we just couldn't hold on anymore. I decided the best move for all of us was for me to leave.

I wasn't happy in Maryland. I didn't fit in. I was self medicating my unhappiness with drinking. Drinking excessivly. It was time for a much needed change as the path I was on was destructive.

Leaving the state, the East Coast, was the right plan for me. Staying, as my son said, would have killed me. I don't drink anymore, well not like I used to. I may have a glass of wine once in awhile, but not like I used to. I am in a better place now, but still struggling with the transistion. Not the transition of a divorce, but the transition of being a mom.

I get sad, pretty much every day, missing my kids. It would even get angry with God. Asking why? How could you? 

Since heading out West to the mountains of Colorado, I talk to God every day with tears rolling down my cheeks. Asking the why's and the how could's. Funny thing is, he answers me. I don't always hear it the first time as it takes a while to really understand what is happening. 

There were days I thought I was being punished... Karma sorta speak... for things I did. Neil set me straight on that. He said, "God does not punish you, everything happens for a reason. You may not see it now, but there is a reason." 

He is right. It's not God's fault, and I am not being punished. 

This whole experience has brought me closer to Him. I still have a lot of healing and accepting to do. Truth be told, during those dark days I would pray. I didn't truly believe though. Why did I pray? It's what I was taught to do. It's what you do in hard times. I prayed to God wanting this life of adventure, to have my own "Jeep Momma's Garage" and to find that person to share my life with who wanted the same adventure,and to find happiness. He was listening. 

I am not being punished. I was heard. Now it is time I accept this change in my life. The change I asked for and the change I needed. I need to accept my new role as a mom too. That's a hard one though. 

I read somewhere...“When you want to have a close relationship with someone you spend hours of time with that person. That’s how you fall in love with God. You get to know Him on a one-on-one basis. That’s what happens when you’re forced through your pain to spend hours of time praying for relief, help, and strength.

As horrible as it is to struggle with the guilt and sadness, I am becoming stronger person. I am stronger in my faith.

Meeting Neil has also made me a better person. Neil is teaching me many things about myself as well. Like he always says everything happens for a reason. 

ROMANS 8:28 We know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”

Lord Jesus, as I cry out to You in my pain, praying for relief and help and strength, I pray that I grow to be a better person—strong, wise, and mature in You. Amen.

Let God comfort you through His Word.

Philippians 4: 5-6 “The Lord is near. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God”

Saturday, February 6, 2021

TOP 5 Must Do with Your New Jeep

When I became a new Jeep owner, I had no idea what I was getting into. I didn’t know where to start and asked tons of questions. That was over seven years ago. I have learned a lot since then. 

My Top 5 "Must Do's" as a New Jeep Owner.

You Tube Video - Top 5 Must Do's New Jeep Owners 

Neil's Top 5 Must Do's for New Jeep Owners 

First - Get to know what your Jeep is capable of before you start making serious mods to your Jeep. Take your Jeep out for different rides on different terrains. That is if you plan on taking it off road. If you don’t plan on taking it off road, like I did at first, don’t be surprised when one day that bug hits you.

Second - Floor Mats A must! Especially if you have carpet.
You will want those rubberized floor mats. I like the ones that have the high perimeter walls to keep all the yuk contained. They are great for those snowy winter months when you track that snowy salty muddy mush into your Jeep. 

Third- Accessory Color
Pick your your accessory color because soon after you buy your Jeep you will be seeing all the other Jeeps and how unique they are. You will want to make your Jeep your own reflection of your personality.

The amount of Jeep accessories you can buy are vast. If they don’t come in the color you pick you can always use spray paint.  

Fourth - Decals A must do to your Jeep! A hand wave in your
accessory color looks awesome. You can also add the name of your Jeep on the side of the hood, that is if you are into naming your Jeep.

There is the windshield decal too. Decals and stickers seem to be a Jeep thing for most. If you don't want decals on the outside of your Jeep, just add them under the hood of the Jeep. 

Fifth - Recovery Points  Even if you don’t go off road. You never know when your Jeep is going to be needed to pull out another vehicle.  If you decide to off-road good solid recovery points are a must. 

Saturday, January 30, 2021

Reflections From 2020

2020 was a pretty crappy year for most people. Mine started
out really hard having to leave my boys in Maryland because of my separation.

Hardest Week Of My Life  January 7,2020

I had a plan though. A plan to see them. A plan to fly them to Utah for EJS. A plan to fly home to visit. So many visits planned. Then the pandemic hit and the world went topsy turvy. 

I did go back to the East Coast in January. That was a huge mistake. It was too much for me to go to the home I built for my family only to be a guest. I had a mini meltdown.

Life in 2020 was difficult and crappy for a lot of folks. But enough of the negative. I want to remember all the good that came of 2020.  

Reflections of 2020
by Me 

My adventure partner and best friend, Neil, taught me some great life lessons this past year.

Patience & Flexibility & Positivity

Patience to enjoy the journey not worry about the desitination. Flexibility to change course at a moments notice. Positivity to look at the good of life not the bad. 

I know 2020 was a bad year for lots of people, myself included. There were some low times for me. As I look back, I am going to remember the good times, and my great accomplishments.

I wheeled the Rubicon Trail with my two sons! The Rubicon Trail was a Bucket List item from the first year I had my Jeep. 

Off Roading was always a hard one for me because no one in my family would go with me. So who would have ever expected my two boys would be on the trail with me. It was an amazing experience to share with them.

It was awesome to have them their with me. I have Neil to thank for that as he encouraged them to join us.  You can read all about the adventure by clicking on the Rubicon Trail link under More Jeep Momma on the right side of my Blog.  

I attended my first ever Easter Jeep Safari, even though it was cancelled, we still wheeled many trails. It was very eery being the only Jeepers in Moab. However, we made the most of it. 

Neil and I had our first Fan Ride. We overlanded the Mojave Desert with some amazing Jeep friends. 

Neil, Mike and I wheeled some of the toughest trails in the
country in Kingman, AZ with a great Jeep Group. 

Neil and I rescued and rebuilt many Jeeps. 



This past year I have added so many great Jeep friends to my life. At the same time I figured out who all those toxic friends were in my life and let them go. 

I spent some amazing healing moments with my niece on the gulf coast of Texas.

My relationship with my two sons has grown beyond what I have ever imagined. I shot my first ever handgun and have to say I have pretty good aim. 

I have gained grit & fortitude & so much confidence.

So... Take a Moment and Find the Positive for Yourself From This Past Year.

Wednesday, January 6, 2021

Obsessive Jeep Disorder

Hi, My name is Tammy and I have O – J – D.

When I first bought my Jeep, I had no idea what I was getting myself into. I didn’t realize the addiction I was instore for. I knew nothing of Jeeps nor this whole new world I was entering. 

I kept hearing… It's a Jeep thing you wouldn't understand. Or Jeep equals Just Empty Every Pocket. Now seven years later I get it. I began to become addicted just a few months after I bought my Jeep. It grabs hold of you quickly and… It’s called Obsessive jeep Disorder.

All us Jeepers get that saying. We say it a lot to our non-Jeep friends and family. We love our Jeeps. Our Jeeps make us happy. Our Jeeps are like a part of the family. For some of us… our Jeep has changed our life. But how do you know if you have Obsessive Jeep Disorder? How do you know if Jeep is your obsession? 

 Top 10 Signs of Obsessive Jeep Disorder

  • You see the UPS Driver more than you see your friends.
  • You have a pile of worn Jeep catalogs in the bathroom for serious reading
  • You think about your Jeep even when you are not driving it. 
  • You park next to any Jeep you see no matter how far you need to walk to your destination. 
  • You have more pictures of your Jeep on social media than of your kids or your pet.
  • You are constantly opening the door to the garage  or looking out your window to make sure your Jeep is okay.
  • You are constantly buying Jeep parts, whether they are serious mods or silly little accessories, just to get your Jeep Parts fix.
  • You ask the hostess at a restaurant to seat you at a table by the window, so you can keep an eye on your Jeep.
  • You get angry when your Jeep Wave doesn't get returned.
  • You sell your kids Legos so you can buy more Jeep Parts.  

One or more of these signs and you have Obsessives Jeep Disorder. To non-Jeep friends and family, they might feel you need to be committed. However, they don’t understand because.. it’s a Jeep Thing. 

Remember you are not alone… you are part of a big, wonderful Jeep family! This family is there for you. To help encourage you through this amazing time of your life. They will encourage you to keep buying more Jeep Stuff. They will join in on your outrage for not getting that Jeep wave. They may even give you their old Jeep Parts for support. And… they may even encourage you… to buy another Jeep. 

Don’t be ashamed… own that Jeep Life and hold your head high. Walk into that family gathering with confidence knowing you are living the best life out there! Take that Jeep with you everywhere, go to the top of a mountain or through the desert. Don’t let those negative Nellies stop you from your happiness.