The Jeep That Carried Me Through Losing Everything (Twice)

There are some things you don’t realize will be hard… until they are.

Saying goodbye to my Jeep was one of them.

When You Just Know Something’s Wrong

It started with a flashing check engine light. The dinging. That sinking feeling in your stomach when you just know something isn’t right.

I knew that feeling because I’d been here before. And the last time it ended with a new engine. 

Misfire on cylinder #1.
And more behind it.

I didn’t need all the details to understand what that meant. This wasn’t going to be simple. And it wasn’t going to be cheap.

But what made it harder wasn’t the repairs.

It was what that Jeep meant to me.

My Jeep’s last breaths 💔

More Than Just a Jeep

Because that Jeep wasn’t just a vehicle.

It was there for some of the biggest, hardest, most defining moments of my life.

I think back to the Rubicon Trail.

A trail I never thought I’d get to experience… and yet there I was, behind the wheel, with my two boys along for the ride. Crawling over rock, pushing past doubt, doing something I once thought was out of reach.

Life has a funny way of getting you exactly where you’re meant to be even if the path doesn’t look anything like you planned.

And then there were the moments no one sees.

The quiet, heavy ones.

That Jeep was there through my divorce. When everything I knew changed. When I left it all behind to start over in Colorado.

And then again… starting over in Wyoming.

Twice.

Losing everything… twice.

And somehow, through all of that, I still had my Jeep.

It sounds silly to some people, I’m sure. But when everything else felt uncertain, that Jeep was steady.

It was something I could count on.

It was my rock.

The Day I Made It to the Rubicon Trail

Letting Go

So when it became undriveable, I was faced with a decision I didn’t want to make.

Wait without transportation.
Take on repairs I couldn’t afford.
Or let go.

None of those options felt good.

But sometimes life doesn’t give you easy choices. Just necessary ones.

So I let go.

And I cried signing the papers. Not because I didn’t understand the decision but because I did.

Because I knew I wasn’t just saying goodbye to a Jeep.

I was closing a chapter.

Goodbye Old Jeep, Hello Purple Reign

What Stays With Us

But here’s what I also know…

That Jeep gave me everything it was supposed to.

The memories don’t go away.
The strength I found doesn’t disappear.
The woman I became through those miles that stays with me.

So this isn’t just a goodbye.

It’s a thank you.

Thank you for carrying me through some of the hardest seasons of my life.
Thank you for the adventures I never thought I’d have.
Thank you for being there when I needed something steady.

You were never just a Jeep.

You were part of my story.

If you’ve ever had to let go of something that meant more than people realized… you understand.

More than a Jeep…
it was the life I was building 💜

The Next Chapter

And while this chapter is ending…

I’m still here.

Still moving forward.

Still a Jeep girl.

💜

Can You Off-Road a Stock Jeep Wrangler?

What New Jeep Owners Should Know

One thing I hear all the time in the Jeep community is this:

“My Jeep is just a pavement princess.”

Usually it’s followed by something like, “I spent too much money on it to risk breaking it.”

I understand that feeling. Jeeps aren’t cheap, and the idea of taking your vehicle off-road for the first time can feel intimidating.

But here’s something many new Jeep owners don’t realize.

You don’t need a massive lift, huge tires, or a fully built rig to start exploring trails.

In fact, I didn’t have any of that when I started, even my first time on a blue trail my Jeep was stock height and tires.

One of my first off-road trail experiences
learning how capable a stock Jeep Wrangler really is.

Quick Answer: Can You Off-Road a Stock Jeep Wrangler?

Yes. A stock Jeep Wrangler is surprisingly capable off-road. I wheeled my Jeep completely stock for two and a half years on green and blue trails before adding any major modifications. Starting stock actually helped me develop better driving skills like reading terrain, choosing lines, and learning how my Jeep handled obstacles.

My Jeep Started Completely Stock

When I bought my first Jeep, I had no idea an entire world of off-roading existed.

Seriously. None.

I didn’t grow up around it, and I never imagined I’d end up driving over rocks and exploring trails.

But then I discovered something that changed everything.

YouTube.

I started watching videos of other Jeep owners out on trails crawling rocks, exploring mountains, and reaching places you could only get to with four-wheel drive.

And I remember thinking:

I want to do that.

At the time I also believed something else.

I thought I would need a huge lift and big tires before I could even attempt a trail.

But my budget said otherwise.

My first Jeep Wrangler when it was still completely stock 

Learning to Wheel a Stock Jeep

Instead of modifying my Jeep right away, I started wheeling it exactly how it came from the factory.

Stock.

For two and a half years, I ran trails in my completely stock Jeep.

Green trails.
Blue trails.

And you know what?

It handled them just fine. And I didn't break my Jeep. 

What I didn’t realize at the time was that learning to wheel stock would actually make me a much better off-road driver.

When you don’t have huge tires and tons of clearance, you learn things like:

• how to pick the right line

• how to read terrain

• how to control your speed

• how to trust your vehicle

Those skills matter far more than bolt-on parts.

Following other Jeeps on one of my early trail rides.

The Jeep Is More Capable Than You Think

One of the biggest surprises for many new Jeep owners is just how capable these vehicles are right from the factory.

Jeep engineers design Wranglers with off-road performance in mind.

Things like:

• solid axles

• excellent approach and departure angles

• low-range gearing

All of that means a stock Jeep can handle more than most people expect.

You might be surprised how many places a stock Jeep can go without getting stuck or breaking parts. If you take the time to learn to drive properly on the trails. 

Learning to navigate rocky trail obstacles
early in my off-roading journey

Eventually I Did Upgrade My Jeep

Over time, I did add some upgrades.

Today my Jeep runs:

• a 3.5-inch lift

• 35-inch tires

• upgraded suspension components

With that setup I’ve been able to run some incredible trails, including the Rubicon Trail.

But here’s the thing.

Even now, I’m not interested in extreme rock crawling. I will do it but I would rather explore.

There are people who build Jeeps specifically for massive obstacles and hardcore rock crawling.

That’s great if that’s your goal.

But it doesn’t have to be.

I like the balance my Jeep has now. It’s capable, reliable, and still comfortable for exploring and traveling.

Social Media Can Create Unrealistic Expectations

If you spend time scrolling through Jeep content online, it’s easy to think every Jeep needs:

• 37-inch tires

• huge lifts

• thousands of dollars in upgrades

• fully built suspension systems

Social media tends to highlight the biggest and most extreme builds.

But that’s not what most Jeep owners are actually driving.

Some of the most capable drivers I know are running simple, practical setups.

And many of them started exactly the way I did.

Stock.

Skill Matters More Than Gear

Real off-road capability comes from several things working together.

Driver Skill

Learning how to read terrain and choose the right line.

Experience

Time on the trail builds confidence and judgment.

Vehicle Setup

Matching modifications to the type of driving you actually do.

Confidence

Feeling comfortable behind the wheel.

You can’t buy most of those things.

They come from time and experience.

Don’t Wait to Start

One of the biggest mistakes new Jeep owners make is waiting to explore.

They think they need to install everything first.

Lift.
Tires.
Armor.
Winch.
Lights.
Gear.

And then someday they’ll finally hit the trail.

But the truth is, the best way to learn off-roading is simply to start.

Find beginner trails.
Go with experienced friends.
Take it slow.

Your Jeep is probably more capable than you realize.

And the sooner you start exploring, the sooner you’ll build the confidence that really matters.

Trail Safety and Responsibility

If you’re new to off-roading, start with easier trails and always wheel with others when possible.

Trail conditions can change, obstacles may look different in person than they do online, and it’s important to know your limits.

There’s no shame in taking the bypass or turning around.

Good judgment is part of being a responsible off-roader.

The Goal Isn’t the Biggest Build

The goal isn’t to build the most impressive Jeep in the parking lot.

The goal is to build a Jeep that gets you out on the trail.

For me, that journey started with a completely stock Jeep and a lot of curiosity.

And honestly?

Those early trail days taught me some of the most valuable lessons I still use every time I head off-road.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can you off-road a stock Jeep Wrangler?

Yes. Stock Jeep Wranglers are designed with off-road capability in mind. Many beginner trails can be safely driven with a stock Jeep.

What trails should beginners start with?

Look for green or easy-rated trails and gradually work your way up as your confidence and experience grow.

What gear should beginners carry?

Basic recovery gear like a recovery strap, soft shackle, gloves, and a tire pressure gauge are good starting points.

Do you need a lift kit to start off-roading?

No. Many Jeep owners begin wheeling completely stock and upgrade later once they understand how they use their vehicle.

How the Jeep World Has Changed

And Why It’s Good for New Off-Roaders

The first time I crawled over a rock obstacle that looked impossible, I remember thinking, I just did that.

The adrenaline, the focus, the moment when the tires finally climbed over the ledge it was exhilarating and empowering all at once.

One of my first big rock obstacles! 

When I first started wheeling, rock crawling was everything.

There is something exhilarating about crawling rocks. The slow, technical movement. The challenge of picking the right line. The feeling when your Jeep climbs over something that looked impossible just moments before.

For me, it was empowering.

Learning how to maneuver my Jeep over obstacles built confidence in a way I had never experienced before. Every trail taught me something new about driving, about problem solving, and about trusting both the vehicle and myself.

Rock crawling will always be a part of the Jeep world, and honestly, I still love it.

But somewhere along the way, something changed.

And I changed with it.

After a long day on the trail,
we set up camp in the desert.

My First Off-Roading Adventure Across America

My perspective started shifting when I took my first off-roading adventure across the country.

Out west, I still found incredible trails and technical rock crawling. The terrain was dramatic and challenging, and every trail felt like an accomplishment.

But between those trails, something else happened.

I started discovering places.

Remote desert roads that stretched for miles. Quiet campsites far from pavement. Mountain overlooks that made you stop and take it all in.

Suddenly the Jeep wasn’t just a machine for conquering obstacles.

It was a vehicle that opened doors to places most people never see.

And that changed everything for me.

Discovering a Different Kind of Adventure

Some of my favorite memories from those trips weren’t the toughest obstacles.

They were the moments in between.

A quiet campsite at the end of a long dirt road.

A trail that led to a breathtaking view.

Driving through landscapes so remote that the only way to reach them was with four-wheel drive.

Those experiences made me realize something important.

The Jeep wasn’t just about the trail itself.

It was about where the trail could take you.

Waking up to views like this is one of the
 best parts of exploring back roads with a Jeep. 

The Jeep World Is Changing Too

Over the past decade, I’ve noticed that I’m not the only one who has experienced this shift.

The Jeep community has evolved alongside that same discovery.

While rock crawling is still a huge part of the culture, more and more people are using their Jeeps for things like:

• overlanding

• camping

• exploring back roads

• family adventures

• remote travel

Jeeps have become tools for exploration.

They allow people to reach quiet places, experience the outdoors, and create memories that simply aren’t possible from the pavement.

In many ways, the Jeep world and I changed together.

What started as a passion for technical trails grew into something bigger, a love for exploration and the freedom that comes with it.

Engineer Pass in Colorado: A memory for a lifetime! 

More Than Just Obstacles

The Jeep community is still full of incredible drivers tackling amazing obstacles.

And that will always be part of what makes the off-road world exciting.

But today, the Jeep world is also about something deeper.

It’s about adventure.

It’s about discovering new places.

It’s about building confidence behind the wheel and realizing that the trail can lead to far more than just the next obstacle.

Sometimes the most meaningful journeys aren’t measured by the difficulty of the trail.

They’re measured by the places the trail takes you.

And honestly, I think that’s a pretty great evolution.

What I Know Now: Beginner Off-Roading Lessons from My First Year in a Jeep

In my first year off-roading, I learned that confidence comes from showing up, belonging comes from respect, and good judgment matters more than bravery.

When I first started off-roading, I didn’t imagine where it would lead. I wasn’t chasing hard trails or big milestones. I wasn’t trying to prove anything. I was just trying to learn, to belong, and to trust myself one decision at a time.

Looking back now, there are things I know with certainty, things I didn’t understand my first year on the trail. These lessons didn’t come from confidence. They came from showing up.

When I first started off-roading, I didn’t know what I was doing and honestly, that’s normal for most beginners. 

Beginner off-roading tips

I never imagined I’d be standing here.
The path I didn’t plan is the one that changed me.

I Didn’t Start Out Aiming for Hard Trails

I didn’t think I would ever be the kind of person who could wheel trails like the Rubicon. That level of wheeling felt like a far-fetched daydream something meant for other people, not me.

But life has a way of changing you before the trail ever does. Taking a leap of faith off the trail shifted how I showed up on it. Confidence didn’t arrive all at once. It grew quietly, one choice at a time, until one day I realized I was standing in a place I never imagined I’d be.

Confidence Came After Showing Up (My First Year Off-roading Lesson)

My first year off-roading wasn’t confident, it was cautious, curious, and full of questions. I showed up unsure. I relied on spotters. I learned how to read the trail instead of rushing through it. I made mistakes.

Things broke. I fixed them. I learned.

Confidence didn’t come from proving anything. It came from experience. From being willing to try, even when I wasn’t sure I was ready. From showing up again after a hard day on the trail and trusting that growth was happening, even if I couldn’t see it yet.

I learned it’s okay to slow down, step out, and ask for help.

You Don’t Have to Prove Anything to Belong

I used to think belonging meant keeping up. Running the hard lines. Not slowing anyone down. Not asking too many questions.

What I learned is that real Jeep culture doesn’t work that way.

Jeep people help before they judge. Belonging doesn’t come from bravery or ego, it comes from respect, learning, and being willing to ask. You don’t have to do everything to be part of it. You already belong when you show up with the right attitude.

Confidence didn’t grow alone, it grew in community.

Good Judgment Matters More Than Bravery on the Trail

Early on, I thought bravery meant pushing through. Harder. Steeper. Just one more obstacle.

Now I know better.

Good judgment matters more than bravery. Turning around isn’t quitting, it’s choosing to come home safe. The trail will still be there. Knowing when to stop, when to take the bypass, or when to say “not today” isn’t weakness. It’s experience talking.

What the Trail Taught Me

The biggest thing I know now that I didn’t my first year off-roading is this: growth doesn’t come from rushing ahead. It comes from showing up, learning, trusting yourself, and knowing when to pause.

If you’re new, unsure, or wondering if you belong, keep going.
The path you never imagined is often where growth takes you.

Frequently Asked Questions About First-Year Off-Roading

What should I know my first year off-roading?
Your first year off-roading is about learning, not proving anything. Focus on showing up, asking questions, learning trail etiquette, and building confidence through experience rather than difficulty.

Is off-roading hard for beginners?
Off-roading can feel intimidating at first, but beginner trails and supportive Jeep communities make it accessible. Confidence grows over time with practice and guidance.

Do you need experience to belong in the Jeep community?
No. Belonging comes from respect, learning, and a willingness to ask for help. You don’t need to run hard trails to be part of the Jeep community.

When should you turn around while off-roading?
Turning around is the right choice when conditions feel unsafe, weather changes, or comfort levels drop. Knowing when to stop is a sign of experience, not failure.